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Is there such thing as a "vibe"?

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by applepie, Oct 11, 2013.

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Do you believe in "vibes"?

  1. Yes!

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  2. No.

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  3. Maybe?

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  1. applepie

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    So i've known this girl for a few years, and for some reason I kinda got a lesbian vibe from her... It's hard to explain. Its not the way she looks/dresses/something she is consciously doing... Is it just all in my head then? Or is this normal?

    Also, how would I go about subtly flirting with her? just to figure out if she'd be interested? Since we work at the same place I wouldn't want to freak her out and have it be awkward around her all the time.
     
  2. paris

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    The same actually happened to me the other day. I saw a girl on the street and my first reaction was "hey, she has a gay vibe". Except that there was nothing what would shout 'gay'. But I have no feedback if she is or is not lesbian so it's really hard to tell :rolle:

    About the subtle flirting, I'd probably show interest in her work, praise her work a little, maybe compliment her clothes/make up, ask some advice from her, or offer a help, etc. If you make yourself tea/coffee, ask her if she also wants some (I used this one a lot :icon_wink). Be a good listener. You can add some eye contact (but not much to avoid staring), but no touching at this point and pay attention to her body language.