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Is being small or cute relationship material?

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by lil boi, Oct 16, 2013.

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  1. lil boi

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    I dislike the fact that I'm short and skinny. I mean I'm Asian to, but it's still not an excuse. I'm not as skinny as few guys I know but I still feel weak and helpless and I hate that. People also look at me as if I'm too weak or small to do something and it annoys me. I also don't get why big guys are jealous of us skinny guys. I don't find us as attractive as bigger guys. I'm kinda jealous of the bigger guys I know who wished they were skinnier because they're stronger and more protective. The only plus side I know about being small is that I've been called cute and adorable, but that never got me any dates, just old people pinching my cheeks. (and maybe some friends who aren't as intimidated by me) :/

    But I do have to say I do like shorter guys who around my height. I don't know why but I like cute people for some reason as well. But I don't exactly have a preference on physical attributes as in personality attributes. I have always fallen for a guy or girl who acts cute/modest for some reason.
     
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    That's not relationship material anymore than the fact that I have brown eyes is relationship material. It's just a trait... you know? People out there certainly have preferences for smaller people, for what it's worth.
     
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    What are you talking about, skinny guys are the best! They're the only kind I'd go for, actually.
     
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    Short skinny guys are the best, trust me there is nothing wrong with being cute.
     
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    Put it this way, I'd KILL to be small and cute, we can switch skeletons whenever you like!
     
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    Funny.. I was "eying up" someone in a cafe who exactly fits your description only about an hour ago!!

    Yum ... In my book you have nothing you need to change!!!
     
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    Short, skinny, cute Asian guy, you just described my boyfriend pretty well. I know a lot of guys who like short/skinny guys, personally I really like short guys, I think they're really cute :slight_smile:
     
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    I don't see why being small and skinny wouldn't make someone relationship material. Just like with any other body type, different people have different preferences.

    I personally prefer smaller guys - I enjoy being in the "protective" role that is near-impossible to have with a larger guy.

    Don't forget, you're only 17, it's no big deal if you don't find someone straight away. I know plenty of people older than you who have never been in a relationship.
     
  9. lil boi

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    Aha, I know I'm still young but I get a little jealous of my friends from time to time. They all have been in long-term relationships and I've only been in one, and it only lasted a week. >.<

    I think I just come off as child from how I look. I do like that I have a sort of baby face but I feel like it makes others look at me as more of a fragile child. And it irritates me.
     
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    As some people said above, you're only 17. Don't fret it, I've only had 2 long relationships and I'm almost 30. Though you shouldn't focus on how many relationships you've had, I don't think it's a good way to measure your worth.
    And, like others said, I find cute and small guys to be adorable and perfect lol :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
    EDIT: Oh yeah, I love your Pikachu avatar, its super adorable :slight_smile:
     
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    There is a guy who works at the bank i go to, who i have a big crush on, who is relatively short maybe 5'8'? and definitely cute.
     
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    Short, skinny, Asian? ... sigh...

    That's all I have to say :slight_smile:
     
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    I love short, cute, skinny guys! :slight_smile: I am a girl but alot of the guys I like are gay...

    My current (female) crush is also short, skinny AND Asian... :wink:
     
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    They might be big, but we're fast and scrappy!

    As has already been said, there will be people who will admire you exactly as you are. Society tries to enforce this idea of the tall, muscular male, but that isn't really the staple of attraction. Though I think people with smaller frames or younger features do have to be more careful of the type of attention they are receiving. It's easily to be subjected to fetishization.
     
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    Tall and muscular might be attractive to many straight girls, because those traits are both very masculine, they represent strength, a man to lean on and look up to. BUT - I don't go for that, and neither do many other people in the LGBT community, whether male or female - I am not feminine enough myself to want a partner who is strong and macho. I like to "look after" my partners as much as to be looked after by them :wink:

    It's a common trait amongst LGBT people not to be attracted to the epitome of masculine or feminine, because we like more of a mix of traits :slight_smile:
     
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    You definitely sound like "boyfriend material" to me. Some people like small people, others don't. Just as some people like bigger people and some don't. It's all just personal preference. Your size doesn't determine who you are and does not make you any less "boyfriend material" than anyone else.
     
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    I prefer cute guys over "big manly men" myself, and as it has been said before it's pretty subjective between each person. You shouldn't worry to much about ending up alone, I am sure you will find someone nice someday.
     
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    Small and cute is definitely my preference. But it is just a preference, not a prerequisite. There're people out there with preferences for everything, so I wouldn't worry. You've still got plenty of time to find someone who loves you for you.
     
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    Hi dreamboat! I love short, slender, Asian guys.
     
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    Coming from someone who is 5'5: I like shorter guys and girls. I admit it, I get caught up in a Napoleon complex, like when I am high off the ground or on a really high building or something. I like small (or at least when things appear smaller) so I feel bigger lol
    And cuteness adds to it. Weight doesn't bother me at all either honestly. You could be as skinny as a rail.. or on the heavy side, and you could end up attractive to me. I know I'm not the only one who thinks like this, so keep your hopes up.
     
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