Lately I've been feeling really isolated/lonely... like there is no one I can talk to about stuff. In school I have no friend, only acquaintances. I have family who cares about me, but I don't want to upset them with my problems. Also all I would really say is that I'm lonely and it makes me sad. There is a staff member at the college who I can talk to, but I can't talk to her everyday of the week. I told this stuff to the staff member today and she asked if I was depressed and I told her just lonely...but when I thought about it somemore I don't really know the answer to that. When I used to be in therapy my main problem was similar in that I don't trust that my friends really care about me and are just pretending to care. Only now I don't really have any friends at all. Even on EC I feel people don't care about me...that might be my fault though for not interacting much with EC.
You are not alone. There are lots of poeple ere on EC that will come alongside you. One thing I've noticed since being here is that there are people that understand and want to help out in whatever way needed. I suggest you reach out and see if there is somebody you can talk you.
TechnoBoy, this: "Even on EC I feel people don't care about me" makes me sad! Feeling isolated sucks, it really does and we've all been there. There will always be people who want their own problems dealt with and won't worry about other peoples, but that's not the EC I know. There are a significant amount of people who will talk you through anything you need if you ask for it! (*hug*)
Hey Technoboy! We're here for you, it's ok to ask for help, and it's ok to feel sad. Let us in to your world a little and we'll do our best to bring a little sunshine into it!
Hey...! First of all , some periods of your life will be isolated. It sucks, but its not going to be forever. You have to stay positive for starters.. people dont much want to hang around with negative/etc ppl. Now this may not apply to you, but its my story -, alot of my isolation problems stemmed from my own issues - i never opened up to anybody properly, due to lack of self confidence partly - and that meant nobody ever developed a meaningful bond with me. As well as probably seeming like i wasnt interested in them.
Thanks ElliaOtaku!! *hug back* :') ---------- Post added 17th Oct 2013 at 04:26 PM ---------- Awww thanks greatwhale! You make me want to cry happy tears now! ^ ^ ---------- Post added 17th Oct 2013 at 04:29 PM ---------- Hey srslywtf, that part about not opening up seems to ring true a bit. I need to try and do that.
I feel you, I'm feeling much the same right now too. Right now there's just nobody on campus (Break) and it makes it feel that much more desolate, even though it's like this most of the time in the rest of the area. It's probably best to talk with someone; I'm not open yet to much anyone and have never had therapy so I can't say that I have that experience to draw from but I would think it would be beneficial if you are really feeling that alone. Everyone feels isolated and alone at some point, it's part of human nature to fend for ourselves however it can get to be overwhelming and that's when you should try and do something about it. Depression is a mean creature as well, it rarely goes away so If you've struggled with in the past do not discount those experiences in the present as it may just as well continue to effect you; even if in lesser forums.
I'm going through this at the moment, but all i do is remember that I still have someone out caring about me, and this gives me hope.
Thanks for the advice Convoy, you are also right about depression not ever really going away. ---------- Post added 17th Oct 2013 at 07:00 PM ---------- I'm really trying to keep that in-mind, rkleb.
Its life. You just have to find an activity to keep yourself busy or socialise more often. Of course it is easier to be said than done.
Hey I have really been feeling the same way recently. I really hope you realize that this is what this type of community is about. I know I don't actually know you in real life - but I care about you and want you to be happy. We are all in a confusing place and it's hard to connect to other people with lots of other things going on (questioning, coming out, etc). My plan tonight is to go to an event, even if I'm going alone just to get out there and be around people. It's always scary but I just tell myself that maybe I will find someone else there who is feeling the same way - and I can always leave if I want to. Join me in going somewhere random, alone!
