I told my bff that i was gay and that I had a crush on our other friend, Damian. He was the first that I have ever come out to.Then he went around telling EVERYBODY, including Damian, what I had said. Now everyone in grade knows, and hates me. All of what I have just said happened today. Now I am at home gushing tears. What should I do?
The crush? No, you slap the supposed bff who sabotaged your reputation! He should have known it's YOUR schedule used for coming out.
Yeah that's what I meant... Well being fair, until you know what the result of all this is, there isn't a lot we can do except say keep your chin up and hope it blows over.
Your BFF has been really bad - did you make it at all clear that it was told in confidence? Anyway, short of time travel, you will just have to weather the storm. It perhaps will not amount to much ... blow over in a day or so and, indeed, it might have some very positive outcomes !!
That's rough...I think you should talk to Damian and try to smooth things over with him. Maybe say you know nothing will ever happen and you hope you can still be friends in spite of this revelation... Your bff is a jerk, remember that. You didn't do anything wrong. Others at your school probably think he's a jerk too. Not everyone at your school can be homophobic, you have the opportunity to make some real friends now who will accept you for who you are. Focus on the supportive people. Also, I doubt you're the only gay person at your school. It's possible that others will open themselves up to you now that you're out. I know it's hard but try to keep your chin up. You always have us at EC.
Pretend that everything is fine. That's gonna be super hard but if you pretend that you're okay eventually everyone in your grade will get bored of talking about it. Does your school have a queer society? Maybe you can find a NEW bff that knows the importance of confidences and coming out in your own time. I know that you're probably going to be upset at home but the only people that need to know that is us and you. You can do this. It's probably not how you planned but you can be strong and survive this.
That was a horrible betrayal of trust, I'm really sorry to hear you have to endure the damage he caused. Hang in there and stay strong.
I think Jeneric has the right idea, hold your head high, act proud (even if you don't feel it), look people in the eye if you have to...pretty soon they'll move on to the next piece of gossip!
I'm really sorry that happened. Like everyone has said, hang in there knowing that things will calm down soon. It's also possible now that everyone knows that you're going to find people you might not have expected will start showing you support. Seriously, though, hang in there (*hug*)
