As long as I can remember I have had low self-esteem. In first grade I refused to go to a party because I was worried what my friends would think of me outside of school. When in public my emotions consist of embarrassment fear shyness and panic. Yet I see people walk about with such confidence and I don't understand. I'm not even confident on what I choose to eat for breakfast. I understand that when shame and self-loathing are the default emotions there's a problem, but I don't know how to fix it.
Hmm. Well, for starters it might help to examine the problem in more detail. Why do you feel shame and self-loathing in the first place? What have you done that you have any reason to feel shame or to not like yourself? For bonus points - why do you need to care what others think of you? Just some starting thoughts. Todd
Greetings from the other side of the Ohio River! I've dealt with low self-esteem for a long time. It's better than it's ever been, but still a work in progress. Honestly, one of the best things I did was go see a shrink when I was at my lowest point, which was my junior year of college, and I continued to see her until I graduated. She helped me get out of my own head enough that I could rely on myself and my support system of family and friends when I needed a boost. That may be something that can be really helpful for you. If you ever want to chat, feel free to post on my wall.
