How to temporarily reduce the 'wanting' while not getting what is want

Prayer, most importantly. And also, find something that interests you and calms me down. I suffer from self harm, but something that can get my mind off of it is painting. Maybe for you its some form of art, or exercising like hiking, running, biking, swimming (which I also do), or listening to music while you read or draw. Just something to keep you occupied. You could even talk to someone on the phone or social media to get your mind off of tyhe things that frustrate you. Hope this helps

 

Well, I think stuff that can be effective includes being deadly serious/honest/realistic with yourself about what you're trying to do and how long it will take. For example, I'm trying to lose weight right now, and I started 6 months ago. I still have a very long way to go, but that's ok because I know that it's ridiculous to think for a moment that it wouldn't take a long time. I could get myself worked up about it rather easily, but why would I do that when it'll probably be another year of work before I get to a point I'm happy with? I know the timespan is a big one- I'm giving myself a year or two- so instead of worrying about it now I will allow myself to worry in a year or two, when I'll actually have a reason to

Another thing is looking at how far you've come already, and breaking it down into steps. Just thinking to yourself "yeah, ok, there's a long way to go, but I did this and this which means I'm far ahead of where I was a year ago, and I'm a better person for that". Don't look at it as one journey or objective, break it down as much as you need. Things are a lot scarier when you perceive them as one giant thing on which everything rests, when it doesn't need to be like that.

Those were very goal-oriented, so it probably isn't so good for stuff like sexual attraction. I'd say a mix of distraction and telling yourself things will be better after the wait (with some glass-half-full thinking as well) might help, but as I said with some things like unrequited love or not enough money to pay for surgery they really are bastards to deal with!

 

Well, you cant stop wanting the things you want, you can, however, learn to deal with the stress that it creates for you. Yoga and meditation is good, helps you to relax. Doing things that you enjoy. Little things like that make life better. You can't always have what you want, but you can try to make the best out of what you have.

 

well first off there's no reason you can't have a boyfriend because you are in school and still at home. I had my first boyfriend at age 12, and we carried on doing everything through graduation without our parents knowledge. After graduation we moved in together and he told my parents as he asked their permission for my hand. So nothing is impossible. June