Too old?

No, I think once you're 18 its legal to date someone over 18 also

 

That's not too old at all

I know of a famous Youtube couple who are 18 and 25, and nobody mentions it! 5 years is completely normal

Plus, since you're 18 now, you are legal and can be with anyone you want!

 

I think it's definitely borderline. As a twenty-four year old I would feel very uncomfortable dating someone who was eighteen or nineteen simply because there is suc a huge gap in life experiences between my age and his. The early twenties are a major formative time in life and it's hard for me to imagine why someone who'd had that additional formation would want to date someone who hadn't.

 

It doesn't seem too old to me, but it's all about what you're comfortable with. Are you and this person on the same level of maturity? Is there a power struggle? Do you feel comfortable with the age gap? Your feelings are the only thing that matters

 

I hope it's not too old, I was 18 and dating a 23 year old. As long as you're happy as a couple and as individuals, there isn't anything to worry about.

 

I think that age shouldn't be a problem, it's whether the two of you are on the same level maturity-wise that you should be concerned about. If say, you are mostly concerned about things like school-room gossip and which famous person did what scandalous thing, while they are more preoccupied with car payments and paychecks, then the two of you might have problems. That of course being a hypothetical situation, but I hope it helps to explain what I am getting at. The fact that the two of you understand what the things concern the other is more important than age, unless one of you was underage.

A final note, ultimately you should go with what your heart and mind tell you.

 

As long as you're comfortable with it, age is just a number once you hit 18.

 

Go for it. I wouldn't care if he was 40 I'd still say go for it. Age is just a number.

 

If you were still a minor he would be too old. Since you are eighteen it's not a huge difference.

 

As Mogget points out, the difference in life experience between someone that is 18 and 23 years old is a lot. Someone who is 40 would have VASTLY different life experiences, and be at a completely different stage in their lives.

While technically legal, such a relationship would not be the epitome of a healthy relationship.

 

Yes there are circumstances where such relationships can be unhealthy but mine is far from that and so are many others.

 

Chip I also said these relationships also can be unhealthy so can you be happy with that! I know these relationships have risks and can be very unhealthy so I somewhat agree with you on that! OMG.

Believe it or not I am tired of having these discussions with you too. Every time I comment in these discussions you fire right back so your just as guilty. If you don't like me or think I don't have a right to speak my mind than get my profile banned. or you can simply ignore me! Cause I am not gonna stupid and yes I love to challenge authority because I have emotionally victimized by them in school.

 

I worry about this all the time even though i'm 25 I like some girls that are 18 or 19 but i feel like i'm taking advantage because i'm older so i then to go for 24 or older because i feel bad about liking someone younger than me

 

Not at all. I prefer older guys than my age, just because they seem to be more stable/mature, but regardless of that, I wouldn't think there would be a problem.

 

I've seen this happening for quite a while and I felt I should just say:
You're being as bad as him by effectively being closed to the Idea of people dating someone who is older than them,
Although you claim to agree there are "Outliers" you don't give and grant them the respect they deserve,
So why should they grant you any respect on your opinions?

Personally I would agree with you,
The age difference is not preferable,
And it can be indicators of something brewing under the calm sea,
But you also like to say you've brought in "Facts",
When all they are is a hodge podge of personal experiences,
And VERY selective surveys,
There are just as many that have advocated a relationship where one partner is older is just as successful as their counterparts.

I have met MANY couples who have big age differences and have managed to make it work,
Would I advocate it?
No,
But do I now refer to someone elses experience as "bullshit",
Of course not.

You've obviously seen such dynamics going down hill,
Or maybe experienced it yourself,
But just because thats how YOU view such a relationship,
Doesn't mean it's correct in any way.

A relationship is unique,
And dynamic,
To try create a "rule" would be cutting out MANY outliers,
Not just a few.

 

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Chip your right my opinion is not factual it's just personal. All I am telling the OP hey I am in one of these relationships and it works for me. Can we just agree to disagree. I am not a bad person I really just want it get along with everyone here and I feel I have the right to state my personal opinion and for it it be left at that! However I am gonna stop posting in these discussions because I am tired of feeling stupid.