Hi, this question could go under a lot of the criteria below, however I think it is mainly about coming out: I am becoming a freshman in high school which is out of zone and is extremely hard to get into therefore only one person (which luckily is my best friend). I came out to her a couple of months ago. I didn't really need to come out to her, i always talk about gay rights and have denied the four guys that have asked me out, she even asked me once! But that's not the point. i hate telling people that I am gay, we shouldn't have to do it, i want them to figure it out themselves. However, if no one knows I am gay, What about a relationship? If people asked if i was gay, then i would tell them. Here's my question: How do i give off (sorry if offensive) the 'gay vibe'?? Thanks
Well, gay or straight should have no bearing on your lifestyle outside of who you are attracted to. If someone is interested in you or you in them you need to act upon it. Other than that you don't need to if you don't see the need to. Buy letting interested parties know is the reason you want to come out it seems. And are you referring to a "flamboyant" gay vibe? Because there are in my experience a lot of stereotypical "manly men" and "girly girls" out there who just happen to be attracted to the same sex. You don't have to be feminine or butch. Any way you could clarify your definition of "gay vibes"?
Well, we go to the uniform school, wearing rainbow, gay pride stickers? Talk about gay rights and stuff? i really don't know!
Hmm, well you must be doing something right already if four guys have already asked you out.... If you liked any of them, but denied them because you were afraid, I'd try talking to one of them.
OOOOOOHHHHH --_-- Now I feel a little slow, shows right on the profile thingy -----_----- :eusa_doh: Well, she asked you out so that tells you a little something. I'm a guy so I may be completely wrong, but I'd find it more difficult coming off as gay if I were a girl. Perhaps a female on here can be of better advise.
Are you artsy or hipster? Rainbow hair or hair accessories are a good subtle start, but overt pride clothing SHOULD be obvious. Or throw some of the LGBT pins with the triangle rainbow on your backpack.
I'm not allowed to dye my hair until I am 16, I might go with some badges and pins, Maybe a pride shirt under my uniform? (when it gets cooler 41 degrees today!)
The pins and badges speak a lot especially on your backpack. Carrying it people can see it behind you when your are walking.
I went and got a "Legalize Love" bracelet and that helped me be subtle about it. Its not big and rainbowy or anything it just kinda hints that I am supportive of the issue and then it starts the conversation with similarly interested issue. So if you want to be a bit subtle but still drop hints you can try something like that. Also you may want to see if your school has a GSA (Gay-Straight Alliance), a lot of high schools have them.
Thanks, i am getting $50 for MY long stationery list (10 exercise books and 5 binders, seriously!) and shoes and shorts, i will see if i can stretch to some bands and badges!
