People judging you cause you are bi-sexual

I use to label myself bi before i knew i was lesbian and i use to get this first hand i was ditch by another lesbian she told me she liked me but couldn't date me because I was bi , I got told by other lesbians mostly online I have bad luck meeting them in real life . that they don't want me because i probably will leave them for a man or crave penis . straight guys were that great either one tried to get me to have a 3some I told him I don't like that type of stuff I was told isn't that the point of being bi , some guys thought I was a slut when i said I was bi . I also had a straight guy get mad at me because I liked a girl more than him and he thought because I was bi i would pick him instead of her . I've also gotten a hate message last week because I told this guy i didn't want to date him .
I'm not bi but i've seen what bisexual people go through first hand

 

See things like this are the reason I tend not to spend a lot of time around people who are drinking...

Any time I've had a comment like this I've just given logical answers...this unfortunately has never made the situation much better at the time since apparently people don't LIKE being proved wrong about things...

 

The problem with being transgendered or bisexual for instance for most people is they find it indecisive, and that troubles some. I find it to be "if they are gay at least you know where they stand" viewpoint applies.

Unfair, but how it is sometimes.

 

I obviously don't have this specific problem since I'm just boring-ly gay, but whenever somebody starts explaining what they think "all (some group of alternate sexuality) are like", especially if they're not IN that group, I just say "Yeah, I'm guessing they know more about their sexuality than I do, since, y'know, they ARE that sexuality and I'm not."

Lex

 

As someone who can't help thrusting herself into every debate she has an opinion on, that is totally correct. It doesn't matter how totally out-there the comment/assumption is, and how completely calm and logical your response is, if they don't wanna hear it they won't.

It's definitely frustrating, but the simple truth is that many people were introduced to the concept of bisexuality wrong. Instead of an individual who might be attracted to men or women, somehow the word is portrayed as basically "sluts with more playing field" (something a friend said). People think that because the bisexual "can" be with both genders, they will. A lot.
Strangely, I've seen discrimination go the other way, too. An out bisexual who'd been single for awhile, and wasn't sleeping around, got told off because they have waaay more possibilities then most people, why aren't they grabbing up those chances? *shakes head* I don't even know.

 

I've heard alot if comments like bisexuals are confused greedy sluty and that's one reason I fear coming out because people can be so judgmental of being bisexual and I hate it when I tell a guy I'm bisexual and he says so you wanna have a threesome I'm like no I like to be with a boy or girl not a boy and girl!!!

 

Yes I completely understand. Even though I'm self identifying as Gay at the moment, in all honesty I actually am bisexual, but there's a lot of bullshit in the gay world about being bi- and since im trying to just date guys exclusively for a while- I decided to pick up the gay label. My point is my sexuality is in flux, I am genuinely aroused by both genders in different ways and sometimes equally and other times more into guys than girls and vice versa. Right now it's more into guys something I haven't really explored- in many ways having a fluid sexuality is harder than not ( Herero or homo).

 

I have avoided this mostly myself, but if it happened I would probably tell them to "fuck off and stop watching Fox News as a legit source on stuff" (I am kinda rude when I get angry, so probably not a good thing to do if you don't want any conflicts).

 

People are typically unable to comprehend bisexuality, so they tend to assume nasty things. My mom, who tends to think she knows better than me on subjects she doesn't even know anything about, insists that bisexual men will just stick it in anything. It's hard for her to accept that I'm in the LGBT community and she is not, thus I know better than her. I like to kindly remind people that they cannot argue their opinions when they don't know what they are talking about.