I've seen references to tops and bottoms all over the place, and I get it with gay sex, but I don't totally understand how it applies to lesbians... Could someone give me an explanation?
I think that it basically means, in some sexual relationships between two women, the giving and receiving isn't always 50/50. So one woman might dominate the other and not receive anything, and prefers to have it that way. However, everyone is different, not all gay couples have one boy as a designated top and the other as a bottom; basically it just depends on the person I suppose. I hope this helped you!
to me top is the one who has the penis/strapon. sometimes times they take turn sometimes there is a clear dominant.
Lesbians top and bottom means in my opinion the one whose fingering or eating out and using the strap on on the other .
A 'top' sort of lesbian might also be more dominant in the relationship outside of sex. She could lead kisses, do the cuddling rather than be the one being cuddled.
I would say either penetration (I count fingers as well) or dominance vs submission. Personally, I would consider myself a submissive top. I want the penetrative role 100% of the time, but I still like my partner to be in more control of me.