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Top vs Bottom in regards to Lesbians?

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by Querying, Feb 7, 2014.

  1. Querying

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    I've seen references to tops and bottoms all over the place, and I get it with gay sex, but I don't totally understand how it applies to lesbians... Could someone give me an explanation?
     
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    I think that it basically means, in some sexual relationships between two women, the giving and receiving isn't always 50/50. So one woman might dominate the other and not receive anything, and prefers to have it that way. However, everyone is different, not all gay couples have one boy as a designated top and the other as a bottom; basically it just depends on the person I suppose. I hope this helped you!
     
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    to me top is the one who has the penis/strapon. sometimes times they take turn sometimes there is a clear dominant.
     
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    Lesbians top and bottom means in my opinion the one whose fingering or eating out and using the strap on on the other .
     
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    I guess if 2 girls use vibrators on each other they would take it in turns to be top or bottom?
     
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    A 'top' sort of lesbian might also be more dominant in the relationship outside of sex. She could lead kisses, do the cuddling rather than be the one being cuddled.
     
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    Oh yeah totally forgot about this good point
     
  8. Fallingdown7

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    I would say either penetration (I count fingers as well) or dominance vs submission. Personally, I would consider myself a submissive top. I want the penetrative role 100% of the time, but I still like my partner to be in more control of me.