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Feeling Alone

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by DissolvedInk, Feb 14, 2014.

  1. DissolvedInk

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    First of all
    Sorry if this is totally in the wrong area :frowning2: Didn't think it really fit in any other forum though?
    I'm just feeling really alone right now. I'm genderqueer/fluid, and I don't know if anyone else has looked around much. But there aren't much support boards/chats/info etc on this kind of thing. Lately I've just been feeling really alone in this. I just want someone who I can talk to about this and they can go 'yea I understand' instead of just talking at someone as they nod there head. I appreciate my friends support so much, but sometimes I just want to talk to someone who knows what it's like to be this way. I guess I'm just frustrated. I don't know if its with myself or with the fact that it seems to be a very unrecognized identity. I just don't want to feel like I'm on the outside anymore. I'm not trans. I'm not cis. I'm just me, and I usually really enjoy that. But sometimes its terribly lonely. Like no one in the world can relate to how I feel about it.
    I'm not 'out' to friends or family, and I never plan to be. Because I just want to be me and they can think whatever they want about me, instead of a bunch of drama. But that leaves me with really just the internet for support or talking about something like this.
    I just don't want to feel so alone anymore. I know theres other people out there like me, it just seems so impossible to find them.
     
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    Hello!
    First, I completely understand, because before I found this forum I was super lonely and depressed because I had literally no one to talk about being genderfluid with. I tried to explain it to my mother and sister and an ex-friend, but it just isn't the same as talking to someone who actually identifies as the same thing.
    So, I'm here if you ever need to talk to someone!
     
  3. DissolvedInk

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    aah thank you ;u; finally. Is it okay if I PM you or something? (maybe not tonight. It's pretty late)
     
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    It's definitely okay. Whenever you feel like you need to talk, don't hesitate, okay? ^^
     
  5. Sarah257

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    Glancing around the gender identity and expression board I have seen a number of posts regarding being gender fluid. That would probably be the best place to look for others like you. Or maybe Beloved can point you towards others like you. I've noticed his/her name on most of those I've seen.

    (@beloved: Sorry if I got the pronoun incorrect.)
     
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    I agree with Sarah! I've seen a few other gender fluid people on the gender identity and expression board. Though I wouldn't know who to tell you to talk to, per say. But if you glance around there, there's a few posts that you might be able to get some information from.

    (@Sarah: You're fine. ^^)
     
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    Hi DissolvedInk,

    I don't know exactly what you go through as a genderqueer but I can assure you that most of us [if not all] feel all alone at some point in our lives.

    I may not be able to help you out with a great advice but trust that I say that we are here for you and can relate to your emotions.

    Don't worry, there are people here who can help you and give you the advice and support that you need.

    Cheer up!
    Cigsmoker [Sam]
     
  8. Blondeye

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    Hug
    Hug

    I too have had that hallow heart feeling

    Hang in there
     
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    Well each person is different even amongst genderfluid or androgynous people so your experience may vary but yes, it's nice to have empathetic people as well as sympathetic ones.

    Stick around here there are awesome people and they will make you feel better.
     
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    I'm lonely as well and because i know how it feels would be more than happy to be a ear to vent too.
     
  11. DissolvedInk

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    thank you all so much for the support. It feels good to know that people care :') edit: so i didn't know that I couldn't send PM's to members apparently? OnO
     
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    Need to be a full member to both send and receive
     
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    Ah, I didn't know that. I guess the only way to communicate is through here and our walls, right?