Dumb Question : Do you need to have fallen in love or be in a relationship to know you are Gay? Because I haven't experienced either.
being attracted\falling in love\being in a relationship with a same sex person - how else can one find out he is gay?)
I'd say that if you feel attracted to them, yeah, you're probably gay. Hard for me to say, love comes first for me. I only realized that I was attracted to guys (for a second time, long story) when I got a huge crush on a friend. hit me like a brick wall. :bang: Everyone's different, though.
I knew I was gay long before any relationship. I had no feelings of attraction towards the opposite sex and couldn't imagine being intimate with the opposite sex.
No, you don't need to be in love or be in a relationship to realize who you are attracted to. I didn't fall in love until I was 16, my first relationship wasn't until 14, but I knew I wasn't straight loooong before that. There are many different ways that people realize their orientation, but a lot of people I know started realizing it early; When all my school friends were all giggly over cute boys, and I was more interested in being close to the cutest girl... When my friends started talking about their first kisses and for the life of me I couldn't picture myself *really* kissing a boy... Your sexual orientation is a part of who you are and you definitely don't need so-called experience to figure it out.
I believe that no, love and romance is not required in the realization process of our sexuality. That said, it can help an enormous amount. For me, the simplest factor in deciding my sexuality was to (1) look at an egregious amount of porn (ranging from simply foreplay between straight couples to the oddest sexual acts out there) and (2) see if my physical arousal was consistent in viewing a specific category of porn. To sum it up: the penis is always the compass.
