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Crush on a straight girl

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by Dex M, Mar 19, 2014.

  1. Dex M

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    Ugh. I have a crush on a straight girl? LOL it's crazy but she's really attractive. Damn. I wanna invite her for a movie this Saturday. What do you think of that?
     
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    I think it's fine as long as you expect friendship and nothing more.
     
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    Hey Dex M

    I am having an identical problem to you here. It seems really heard to break.
    Easiest way to describe it is my head says he's straight so just leave it, but my heart & my instincts still seem to react like there's still a chance he's gay. It sucks that it's wishful thinking because honestly I'm so sure he's straight.

    Of course it's fine to ask her to a movie! Hope you have a great time if you go and hopefully picked a good film :slight_smile:
    As An0n said, assuming you are 100% sure your friend is straight, just keep what you say/do limited to friend stuff!
     
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    Oh shoot. Thank you An0n and RedDev84. I'll see how it goes. :slight_smile:
     
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    I fully understand this situation. There is not an abundance of gay girls around here. I have a crush on this girl at work and we are friends. She calls herself "straighter than an arrow" (what? it came up! ok so i might have manipulated the conversation a little but she didn't even notice and it was super subtle!) She has done the whole let's experiment college thing and knows for sure... But that doesn't stop my crush. I do have a tendency of ignoring her when she texts me to hang out though. Sometimes thats the only thing you can do.
     
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    You're so right. I remember when a crush of mine told me he had a girlfriend I was so sad even though I knew the whole time he was straight.
    During that time, I also felt less desire to hang out etc. The relationship lasted around 4 months, and since they broke up its still feels a bit like before, I dunno why my conscience just can't accept he's straight!
     
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    Make a move.

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    Lmao Jk don't your just going to have to accept her sexuality as a straight woman and that's just how it is.
     
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    Having a crush on a straight girl is awful... But you can absolutely invite her anywhere you want! As far as feelings go, I would try to keep them on the down low unless some big change happens.
     
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    Yeah well I guess I'll keep my feelings down it's not that I'm madly love LOL hell that would be a slap on my face knowing that she's straight. But I'll still give it a try. Who knows. :grin:
     
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    Start at friends could always become more than that
     
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    I would move on..It may be awkward if the girls finds out.
     
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    Straight crushes are the worst...and because there's way more of them out there, you're bound to get emotionally close to one and crush badly. Just gotta move on.

    I wish there were more gay girls!
     
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    Totally haha I wish there were more gay girls too!

    Those are the worst and unfortunately this has now happened to me twice-
    person 1) we just made out a lot
    person2) to this day I don't understand her sexuality but know she has a boyfriend

    best advice I can give you is be friends for now; if you don't think she's 100% straight go for it maybe b/c you'll always wonder

    if she doesn't respond- drop it; takes two to tango and there are plenty of people out there who will want you back :grin:
     
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    I once had a huge crush on a good friend of mine. And that for almost 5 years. That was really stupid. Now I know she's straight.:grin: