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A question for lesbian or bisexual females

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by Paradoxx, Mar 22, 2014.

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  1. Paradoxx

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    How are you all doing? :lol:

    I was wondering how your gaydar works, like how does it feel when it tells you a female is gay or bi?

    I'm wondering this because I'd have no idea how to tell, especially if I'm interested in a girl and would like to see if she'd be interested in starting a relationship with me.

    Thank you so much! :kiss:
    I'll admit, at this moment in time I don't believe I have a wonderful gaydar (does it just take time?) and that's probably because I'm just now realizing I'm not straight.
     
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    Hi:slight_smile:
    I have absolutely no gaydar. I can't tell a girl I see is straight or whatever. I hope it takes just time.:slight_smile: We will see:slight_smile:
    I'm also interested in a girl but have no idead if she's into girls. That's stupid:grin:
     
    #2 CharlsOn, Mar 22, 2014
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    I don't know about anyone else but I have terrible gay dar I can't tell if a girl is bi or lesbian and I don't know how to flirt with girls
     
    #3 stocking, Mar 22, 2014
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    My gaydar is broken. :lol:
    The only way I can tell if a lady likes other ladies is if it's fairly obvious. I have a close friend who is questioning that I think might be bi, but I'm not sure...
     
    #4 BelleFromHell, Mar 22, 2014
  5. Paradoxx

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    @Charlton really? You could try bringing up the Lgbt community in a conversation and see how she reacts. :slight_smile:

    @stocking I understand what you mean- I think I have a much better gaydar when it comes to gay or bisexual males (which doesn't really help me :/ ).

    @BelleFromHell Mine is too! :lol:
    Good luck with figuring out if your friend is bi~
     
    #5 Paradoxx, Mar 22, 2014
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    The only way to really know is if they tell you. The only time mine's really gone off and I wasn't sure was one of my friends who hasn't really been interested in anyone for a while and....well, I don't know why I thought she was. (She's straight, I came out to her and we've had numerous discussions on the topic.) It was just kinda this gut feeling. And I was wrong. So....you're instincts aren't always right.
     
    #6 girlonfire, Mar 22, 2014
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    @ Paradoxx: it seems to be easy but I don't want to make her feeling uncomfortable. I barely know her:slight_smile:
     
    #7 CharlsOn, Mar 22, 2014
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    I hate to say it but sometimes it's the way they dress that makes my gaydar go off. like wearing men's clothes. but that's just because most of the lesbians I've met all do that. To be honest, my gaydar has been pretty good. If a girl is really confident, and all touchy-feely with other girls then that's the other way I can tell. I just hear a voice in my head say "yeah, she's definitely into females...go talk to her." :wink:
     
    #8 justadream, Mar 22, 2014
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    I relate to this post so much haha.
     
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    My gaydar is completely broken. Not just with girls, but all people. It's impossible for me to tell. Not even that, but every time it has gone off, the person ends up being straight. XD
     
    #10 EleanorHunter, Mar 22, 2014
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    My gaydar is absolutely ridiculous. Unless they look obviously gay (as in abide to the social stereotype) I can't tell at all unless I get to know them.

    I'm currently interested in somebody but I'm 100% sure she is straight so I guess I struck out again!

    I wouldn't worry about it :slight_smile:
     
    #11 Dino14, Mar 22, 2014
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    I don't believe in "gaydar"..
     
    #12 DeLuna, Mar 22, 2014
  13. Paradoxx

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    @girlonfire That's very true- instincts are not always correct.

    @CharlsOn Oh, that makes sense then.

    @justadream That's understandable.

    @nicole1989 Nice, aha.

    @EleanorHunter Really? Oh wow, aha, mine isn't entirely broken, I don't think. XD

    @Dino14 Aw, that sucks; I'm sorry. I hate straight-crushes :/

    @PaperCat That's okay, everyone is different. :slight_smile:
     
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    Hm... well I realized one of my friends was bisexual when she talked about boys a lot but whenever I wore a skirt or dress she tried to look under it. :lol:
     
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    I have no gaydar so I just assume all women are straight unless they tell me otherwise. Sadly one cannot assume that the two women they see kissing are truly attracted to women as it's not all that uncommon for girls to kiss just for the attention. *rolls eyes*
     
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    I have no gaydar, and after having 5 same sex relationships in my life I would've thought I'd developed it by now.
     
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    I have a bit of a gaydar. Unfortunately I'm socially awkward, so there's not much use for my gaydar.
     
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    I have none. Sometimes mine "pings" with certain people but you'll never know for sure unless they tell you.
     
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    @stocking I understand what you mean- I think I have a much better gaydar when it comes to gay or bisexual males (which doesn't really help me :/ ).
    I'm not good at that either :icon_sad:
     
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  20. Vince

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    Sorry if the transman doesn't belong here but I spent time as a bisexual female and I must say I have an amazing gaydar... Like 90% accuracy ratings on men and women. It's all about taking in every little detail of their personality and appearance. I can even tell trans apart usually too.
     
    #20 Vince, Mar 23, 2014
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