I feel so bad about myself right now. First of all the guy I like doesn´t seem to care about me (and he used to care, just suddenly stopped) so now when I see him on fb he looks incredibly cute and is so popular, and I feel very ugly, and unpopular, I don´t like the way my hair looks, my body, and I feel I don´t go out nearly as much as he does. How can someone be so popular and handsome, as that guy, and then someone like me be so ugly :icon_sad: I just hate how perfect he is, and now I feel really really bad about myself, I don´t know why. I try to be secure and don´t care what people think, but when ever I see a pic of this guy, I just feel as though Im really inferior, and I hate it. I don´t know what I´m trying to get at by posting this, but I really feel angry and sad at the same time, and talking to you guys here helps alot. Thx for reading
It's normal to feel down after a relationship gone wrong but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
Well u and me r friends so if u ever need to talk to me about anything just know u can do so (*hug*) and u actually have a nice toned body. If u don't like your hair make it into a Mohawk mohawk's r always sexy also you're not ugly you're cute. You're story reminds me of that song avril lavinge let me go. It'll be ok we're here for u (*hug*)
First, (*hug*) It's always hard when something isn't working in a relationship, and when you've already got self esteem issues, it makes it that much harder, because when our self esteem isn't the greatest, we tend to wrap up our self-worth in our relationships, which is really unhealthy. Also, I understand what it feels like to believe that you aren't attractive. And while it would be easy to just say "That's completely untrue", that won't help you, because you would find it hard to believe. The truth is, a lot of guys, including some of the most beautiful guys (porn models, fashion models, hollywood stars) think they're ugly and unattractive, even while they have millions of people who adore them. Beauty in yourself is hard to see, and if you externalize your perception of self-beauty by relying on having a boyfriend to feel beautiful, that's very dangerous because, when the relationship ends, you end up feeling like shit. So my first piece of advice is: Think about what it would be like to love yourself, and to see yourself as beautiful and handsome and attractive and appealing. Because I can assure you there are plenty of people who will find you very attractive... and i'm not saying that to be nice. Also, in the shame resilience work, one of the biggest demons that gets in the way of loving ourselves is comparison. With billions of people in the world, we can always find people who are smarter, richer, more beautiful, or whatever than we are. But of course, there are also plenty who are less fortunate than we are. So the comparision is sort of pointless. What matters is loving and believing in ourselves, as we are. That's a tall order, and easier said than done, but if you start to think about it and set your mind to it, it is very possible, and makes a huge difference in your day-to-day experience. You're a good guy, a cute guy, a sweet and caring guy, Kyle. You deserve love and to be loved, and you're worthy of love. I honestly believe that. And I think if you put some energy into it, you can begin working on believing that yourself, too
If thus guy doesn't care about you anymore, then quite frankly, that's his loss. People who just stop caring for no reason, are often untrustworthy and it can be better off if you let them go. You shouldn't always take this as a reflection on you so don't beat yourself up about it. Take a proper look at yourself, and I'm sure you'll see the many good qualities about your self.
Thank you Chip! reading this does help alot, I really appreciate you taking the time to write this ---------- Post added 28th Mar 2014 at 07:50 AM ---------- Thx!! ---------- Post added 28th Mar 2014 at 07:52 AM ---------- I know I should let him go, but I just can´t, I don´t know why Im so obsessed, and now it has been making me feel unworthy :icon_sad: But I´ll try. Thx for the advice, it really helps alot
