I have always been able to take comments about my skin colour fine, but it gets at me when it's about my sexuality. Does anyone know how to better manage this problem?
In high school I lost the ability to feel hurt by most negative comments. I think you build up a resistance to ignorant and annoying people. Positive reinforcement such as this website also helps. I play along with the jokes my friends say and sometimes I try to educate them.
This is maybe a strange thing to say, but it's practice, like everything else. Maybe you can try standing in front of the mirror and saying to yourself the negative things that people say to you. And you should just think that you're proud of it, it's who you are and it doesn't matter what people say. It'll feel different when people do it in real life but you can practice building resistance to it. What kind of things do they say?
I have been putting up a guard, but sometimes there is not much that you can do. Some of the things are just going to hurt
Gain confidence on your beliefs or find argumentative support to back up your beliefs. There will always be ignorant people sadly.
Some of them are very blatant in what I say, one boy said he hated me simply because of my sexuality, another had used homophobic slurs, and the rest pretend to be gay for their own amusement or say ignorant things about gay people.
Sometimes, the comments are just too hard to bare that you feel hurt SO hurt! like a fat monster constantly nibbling at your hair.. But you need to know... and this is so important.. that we are here to listen
It's hard the say, as how you deal with such things depends on your inherent personality. I generally just blow things off, realising how pathetic those who feel the need to say nasty things are. It's usually a reflection of their own insecurities and when you realise this, you tend to pity them. Happy days
