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  1. aspie musician

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    Things at home are getting really bad...

    Scared
     
    #1 aspie musician, Mar 30, 2014
  2. MDNA

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    i dont know what you are talking about exactly, but stay strong :slight_smile:
     
    #2 MDNA, Mar 30, 2014
  3. aspie musician

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    I'll try

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    I dont know how much I can post.Might be triggering....

    Things are just completely out of control...
     
    #3 aspie musician, Mar 30, 2014
  4. DeLuna

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    You are one of the people that is always telling me to stay strong and fight, <3 I think you should follow your advice
     
    #4 DeLuna, Mar 30, 2014
  5. MsKCorleone

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    You will make it! I believe in you. Stay strong and hopefully everything will be alright.<3
     
    #5 MsKCorleone, Mar 30, 2014
  6. aspie musician

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    De Luna-I am trying to do that

    Will have to think of a way of dealing with this situation

    Will see how things proceed

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    At least no1 was at the hospital.

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    But things did get a bit physical

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    Emotionally I cant even describe the impact things have.
    I try to help.I try.
    Both parents are not coping.
    My brother has had to cut himself off of all emotion just to try and stay in control.
    I did it too at some stage.
    Cant say I blame him.
    Sometimes I wish I could do the same again.
    But bottling things up does not help either.
    Eventually one has to let it out before snapping.

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    The sad thing is-deep down I know that my parents can not be helped anymore....
    I suppose that I care too much....
    He keeps on pushing buttons,twisting words,hungry for a reaction,like some spider spinning a web
    And he knows how to manipulate his way out of the situation...he really does...
    And he gets worse.Things just get worse.

    I cant do it anymore,I just cant.I need to get out.
     
    #6 aspie musician, Mar 30, 2014
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    Move out it can only get better from there.
     
    #7 Andrew99, Mar 30, 2014
  8. aspie musician

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    Sup2345-Sad thing is it wont get better for them.It will get better for me.I know that sounds like it might not be true.But its the reality (I am being vague I suppose)

    But you are right.I have to get out.Have to get out before I cant cope anymore.

    I better stay focused on what I am good at and not let my emotions get in the way.
     
    #8 aspie musician, Mar 30, 2014
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    Is it me or is everything out of control this weekend?
     
    #9 Kat 5, Mar 30, 2014
  10. aspie musician

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    Kat 5-If you must know.Things have been going on like this on a daily basis(most of the time) for quite a number of years....Weekdays and weekends included.But EVERYTHING is not out of control.It just seems that way.I'm sure I will find a way to deal with my situation.I just have to change my approach a bit.

    How are you?
     
    #10 aspie musician, Mar 30, 2014
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    Hey Aspie,

    It's good sometimes to just talk about the problems you're experiencing. That's one of the nice things about EC. Sorry things aren't going well. Maybe putting your problems into more specific detail here would help? It is essentially anonymous, but if you're not comfortable sharing more, that's alright.
     
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    Alright I guess.
     
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  13. aspie musician

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    GreenMan-I dont know...I dont want to upset anyone too much.

    Kat5-You sure?
     
    #13 aspie musician, Mar 31, 2014
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    Still recovering from DeLuna's suicide attempt.
     
    #14 Kat 5, Mar 31, 2014
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    Do you have some place to go or plans for moving out?
     
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    Alright. Whatever makes you comfortable. I probably wouldn't be upset either way, just so you know unless you guys were all torturing innocents or something, but don't suspect you are.
     
    #16 GreenMan, Mar 31, 2014
  17. aspie musician

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    Hey Kat5-Yeah...I know the feeling.If you want to chat,let me know.Its up to you.

    GreenMan-Thanx for understanding

    thrnvlpidj-its a complex situation.dont know about where to yet.still figuring out the how.But getting there.Have an idea of what direction I am going in.
     
    #17 aspie musician, Mar 31, 2014
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    plz do take care of yourself :slight_smile:
     
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  19. Lawrence

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    It's all too human to feel scared. Still sucks though. The way I see it you have to be selfish sometimes. I take care of myself before I worry about other people. Some things aren't worth thinking about too much. If I were to be left alone for long with my thoughts... I don't want to imagine it. My life can be good, just a few hurdles now and then. The past was a bitch though. In 10 years I shall look back and think wow what an immature idiot I was! Anyway, you're in a difficult situation, you put up with it although you shouldn't have had to. You should put yourself first for once, it's more than fair.

    It seems you're blaming yourself and beating yourself up. You can't fix some people no matter how much you try to help. Now I'm NOT wishing death on anyone but I feel like I should mention it. The first time I saw death I was 8. I won't go into process detail, but let's just say not cool. I couldn't feel much beyond confusion and learning how much some people don't care. I met death again when I was 15, this was much worse, even although I didn't get to see this one first hand. That sure showed me how easily everything can be taken. I dunno why I blamed myself seeing as I am not psychic. I never cried over it. It still feels unreal. I guess that's life. The main thing is I got here today. So you can make it. I think most people have dealt with worse than me so I'm sorry if I come across as bitching about my life. I've been lucky in many ways since I never did without and my parents pushed me. If I've misunderstood, it's 'cos I'm soon going to sleep. Keep yourself safe.
     
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    Take care of yourself if the pressure is too much.
    Can you get away for a bit?
    Are there brothers and sisters in the picture too??
     
    #20 bingostring, Apr 3, 2014
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