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    Recently theres been a guy staying over my house lately because hes new to the area and my mum keeps inviting him over for some reason , He said hes straight to me. Im falling in love with him but im scared to come out to him as some bad times happened in my past. All my maes(now ex) ran away when I came out to them, I just want 1 friend to accept for who I am and I dont think this guy will. His name is Jay hes athletic, slim, 6pack, beautiful blue eyes and blonde hair. Hes 18 like me but hes so gorgeous. What do I do, do I come out to him and hope for the best or wait it out??
     
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    Well if he asks tell him I'd say, I wouldn't be opposed to just telling him, but don't tell him about your feelings right away, that will definitely scare him.
     
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    If he runs away its just like my other mates all over again, I cant bare that pain
     
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    Well bring up gay culture with him see what he thinks of the lgbtq community before you tell him. Statistics say that eventually someone will be cool with it.
     
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    If you tell him that you fancy him then he may run away, but if you come out to him as gay and he runs it shows that he is not a friend and doesn't like you unconditionally.

    Things may be awkward in terms of sleeping arrangements, but if he runs away is he a real friend?

    EDIT: I recommend doing the post above, mentioning a gay celebrity and seeing his reaction to homosexuality. Remember people act homophobic but aren't actually homophobic so sense from his response whether he is against it or showing off. Don't keep mentioning LGBT topics all the time, but bring them up if relevant.
     
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    Hes fine with sleeping in same bed as I got a kingsize bed so we have 1 side each. Hes over right now , how can I jusy bring it up without him asking strange questions
     
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    Put on a rerun off HIMYM, mention Neil Patrick Harris' sexual orientation. Boom done.
     
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    Okay im going to bring that up now,
     
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    You should probably mention you think he's cute while your at it, NPH that is.
     
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    Fantastic news, hes okay with me being gay and he hugged me when I called him cute. I became emotional he hugged me again and asked why, so I said everything about ex mates and he hugged me again
     
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    Yay, yay yay yay, you have no idea how happy I am for you, this just made me smile largely.
     
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    If it wasn't for you or Kings help I would of never came out to him, thank you so much, whens it best to share my feelings to him
     
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    Honestly you may want to wait a few days, or even weeks, if you do it too quickly it may still freak him out a bit, but it he is bi-curious he might come to you, just wait it out for at least a little while. Patience is a virtue.
     
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    Yeah thanks, can I private message you for more tips and advice, my mate might even wanna speak to u yet
     
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    Sure, feel free, I'm not sure how much help I will be though in all honesty, I've never been in a relationship myself, but I'll n be glad to help in anyway I can.
     
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    For some reason I cant message you,
    my friend is wanting to say something on here

    Hey im Kay im the guy BigBiBoi has been talking about, he said im straight but in fact im bi sexual but scared to tell him that because I think he fancies me
     
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    Would it be such a bad thing I'd he did? And you know he can read that now right?
     
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    Id be deleting the messages if possible and yeah because I lied to him, I told him im straight and now I feel bad about it
     
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    Why would you lie about it, why bother put in the shadowy of a lie, it's better to be truthful, even if you have to let him down.

    (Your not trolling me are you)
     
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    No im not trolling you, I lied because I thought he was a homophobia type of guy who hates gays and bis, ive been through the hatred
     
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