Hi. So I am in a great relationship with my boyfriend and I love him but last night we ran into some issues. While trying to have sex (me being the bottom and him the top) I wasn't really lubed up and didn't have any so it was a struggle to go in. He got frustrated but it was for a different reason than I thought. Apparently, every time we have sex he says that he doesn't feel like he is having sex with me. The foreplay and everything leading up feels great but when he is inside me, he doesn't feel like he is. I definitely feel it and it feels good to me. What am I supposed to do about this? I feel like I'm getting all the pleasure in fucking and he is getting none. Any advice or opinions would be appreciated so I can fix this issue. Could the condom be the issue? Just throwing that out there.
Instead of bareback, for safety purposes, maybe you could try the ultra sensitive condoms. You know, those that supposedly feel as if you don't have them, although it might not be true, it doesn't hurt to try them.
Question: When you say he doesn't feel like he is having sex with you, where is the emphasis in that sentence...is it: he doesn't feel like he is having SEX with you - as in he can't feel anything and isn't enjoying it or he doesn't feel like he is having sex with YOU - as in it feels impersonal and unpleasant
@Bigbiboy95 Don't just go around suggesting bareback. That's a bad idea, especially if a relationship is new and you don't know what your partner's sexual history is. Try a better, barely-there condom if it's the sex. Or try to change how you act during sex if it's you--cling to him, moan, get into it.
I echo Theron's thought. The problem has nothing to do with the condom, and, bigbiboy, it is *incredibly* irresponsible to suggest or encourage anyone to bareback. It would be helpful to better understand what the OPs boyfriend means and then we could probably offer a better answer.
