Last night my friend came out to me as bi sexual and we are dating. Hes now asking me if he can f*** me but I think its too soom but its taken me ages to find this current boyfriend that I dont wanna upset him, I feel like I be letting him down if I say no. What do I do, we been going out for less then 12 hours and he wants to do me already. Should I let him or not? If you suggest I do it to make him happy, what should we use to make it safe but gives us both so much pleasure
If it feels too soon and you're not ready, don't do it. If he really likes you, he should understand and be prepared to wait. There are many, many people who would feel exactly the same as you. If you're happy to do things short of f***ing, try that. When it comes to it, the usual precautions apply - good condoms (there are loads of options to keep things pleasurable) and plenty of condom safe lube, eg. KY jelly.
I'm glad that that became a relationship for you, but I'd say for me that would be too soon, I mean make out a bit and get a little hot and heavy sure, but i don't know, like I said I've only just came out to myself and my friends I haven't even been on a date yet. Maybe I'm just prudish.
Thanks man, I thought he was the one. 8 years took me to find him and to get a boyfriend to be dumped in less then 12 hours
Look, he only wanted one thing... and that wasn't to be your boyfriend. Forget the 12 hours, if you can, as it will hurt your mind so much to dwell on that thought. Got to agree... what a dick!
You could also consider this. He may have dumped you for not putting out, but imagine if you had...I'm guessing you'd be sitting here now telling us how shitty you feel that he just wanted you for sex and you gave it to him! I don't for a minute think that if you'd given it up he'd have stuck around longer! Dude was a dick and you deserve better.
Well, you tell me if you did good! The situation had 4 possible endings. 1. Sex and he stays 2. No sex and he stays 3. Sex and he leaves 4. No sex and he leaves From what we know about the guy, the first two were unlikely, leaving you with 2 likely outcomes. 3. Sex and he leaves 4. No sex and he leaves Both are pretty bad, but 3 is (in my opinion) much worse. You avoided it because you asked when you weren't sure. Did you do good?
Awesome decision on standing up for yourself. Better to find out early on that you were just a hole to fill for him than someone he truly cared about. Sometimes a lasting relationship can start out with sex, but usually that is not the case, even with the best of intentions. Every one of us are valuable, much more than a quick lay can ever come close to imitating.
