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someone said that thay thouht i was gay

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by dan199343, Apr 14, 2014.

  1. dan199343

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    Hi, I am a 21-year-old male and suffer from Asperger syndrome. I have social interaction problems. I have trouble talking to people epically girls. I have always considered myself to be straight and I have always been attracted to woman and from my early teens I have watched porn, always straight, never gay.
    About 6 weeks ago, I told a Professional that helps me with my condition that I had a crush on a certain woman. Then one week later when the subject was brought it up again the therapist said that she thought that I was gay. When I questioned her about this she said that I was similar to some of her other friends that were gay. I asked some other Professional about this and they all said that they never saw any outward signs that indicated that I’m gay.

    I have no issues with gay people and some of my friends are gay but I don’t believe that I am.
    After this incident I started to have sexual urges towards men. These urges involved me touching men. These urges confused me greatly and make me feel very uneasy. I don’t know why I am having them and I don’t believe I am attracted to other men. I never thought about men sexually before this incident with the therapist.
    Any advice any one could give me or opinions of what I am ( straight, gay or bisexual ). Or thought of what might be going on in my head.
    I feel as if she planted an idea in side my head. An idea that I cant get rid of.
     
  2. bigbiboy95

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    By the sound of it she has planted the idea in your head, from what you said I do believe your straight but since the incident with your therapist you have been curious hense you touching men, if its making you feel weird touching men, I think you know your answer buddy. I would contact the therapists manager and put in a offical complaint as you have ausim syndrome and what you need is help, not someone to plant ideas and challenge your sexuality. Find a new therapist.
     
  3. rainmustfall

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    A therapist said this? That really bothers me. My understanding is a therapist is supposed to help you figure things out for yourself, not tell you how to be or push an identity on you. She may have the best of intentions, but I don't think telling someone what you think their identity is is a good thing to do. If it had been a guy who had feelings for you and you had been treating him in a way that made him feel you were attracted that would be one thing, although that would be about his feelings *not* you. That being said if you have had feelings after she told you that, it may be something that you will need to sort out for yourself separate from her council. Even if she was right it is not her place to tell you how to be.
     
  4. LostAndAffraid

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    ^ this. She was completely wrong to suggest it and have you question something that you were not questioning, but I'd the thoughts are there you may as well sort them out on your own. After all you don't wanna deny who you might become.