Submissive lesbians or I'm not sure how to phrase this...

I'm a very shy and quiet person, I've had social anxiety and am a pretty awkward duck. I've never been in a relationship before but I've been wondering lately if there's anyone like me who doesn't want to be in a relationship with a guy not just because of lack of attraction and whatnot but because you just don't want to deal with gender roles and be automatically set as a sub in a relationship. I'm not stereotyping all hetero/opposite sex relationships but just something about a guy being deemed as my dominant whether by himself or society or friends or family doesn't sit too well with me.

At the same though I'm not much of a dom girl myself. I'm sure if I met the right girl and she could ease me out of my shell I'd be more louder and dominant and fiesty ( I know since I'm pretty out of my shell with my best friend and she can agree I'm super talkative and strong with my words and actions). Though when I think about being sub or equal to a girl in a relationship I'm pretty happy to go along with it amd I wouldn't mind dating a girl who is a little bit more in charge or assertive in a relationship.


I'm just wondering if this is common or something? Weird but hey this is me.