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Obsessing over my sexuality to avoid other problems

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by ChromeNerd, May 9, 2014.

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  1. ChromeNerd

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    I think most people know that I obsess about my sexuality. I think I'm obsessed with it because it distracts me from my other problems. While I do have some genuine issues with my sexuality, those issues are nowhere near as bad as my other issues.

    It's like I'm addicted to being confused about my sexuality even though I hate being confused at the same time. I kind of enjoy writing posts about being confused and thinking of ridiculous possibilities. I sometimes enjoy writing fiction, but it's way less work writing about how confused I am.

    I'm just trapped in a closet right now. A lot of the stuff I'm closeted about isn't even related to my sexuality. Some of the stuff I'm closeted about is even hidden from me. I know this because I often get extremely upset at the smallest things without knowing exactly why.
     
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    I was in a similar phase, not obsessing but repressing (and subconsciously obsessing) as long as you don't make it an excuse for other problems it's ok. I guess it's part of finding your way, u say u'r trapped in a closet, if your happy or at least comfortable being in there then by all means stay until u'r ready. No matter what people say you don't have to come out to everyone, & you don't have to do it NOW, just go about it at your own pace.

    But don't neglect other issues in u'r life because of 'sexuality'. U have to remember it's just part of who you are, not the whole you. I did this once: I failed a test, why? the class was hard & full of hot guys & I couldn't concentrate & I'd mumble in front of the TA when asking a question. I chalked it up to 'You haven't dealt with being into guys and that's why you couldn't concentrate and that's why you failed' which is wrong, I could have found another solution, asked other people questions about the class, study harder, etc. so sexuality is no excuse to slack off (my experience).
     
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