People showing interest is a big turn off for me

Hiya mate,
If you feel comfortable, can you tell us how old you are?

Honestly, that's not atypical behavior, even if you're an older person. You want what you can't have - doesn't everyone?
If you're a younger guy, then that feeling will probably fade soon enough when you meet more people.
When you meet someone who you love for reasons beyond their physical appearance, I highly doubt you'll turn them down if they like you back.

But like I said - if we know your age we'd be better able to talk about where your feelings are at right now and what you might be able to expect in the future.

 

So I take it you've never felt like you met "Mr Right", or "the one" for you? You have always become uninterested when they become interested?

I don't have a lot of data-based things to say to you, but I think you just need do to some more self-exploring. Figure out what makes you tick. Tinker around with different relationships and see how you function.

Honestly, you may feel this way because it's all that you know about yourself.
If you think about it a lot, explore yourself, and talk to your friends and you still don't have a better idea of what's bothering you, maybe seeing a therapist would help?
More often than not, they can offer some insight that we can't do via the internet.

 

I'm exactly the same as you. I could have a massive crush on someone, but once they show an interest in me, it will fade away, only to return when they stop showing interest. Some time ago, I had a guy show interest in me for a couple of months, but I didn't reciprocate, until finally I realized that I really liked him and wanted to be with him (I came out to myself thanks to him). I started imagining a future together with him. Unfortunately, at this point he appeared to have lost interest in me. I was heartbroken. But I learned an important lesson.

I decided that whenever this happens in the future, i.e. I have an interest in someone but lose it once they approach me, I will keep showing an interest in them anyway and try to get closer to them. I was really hurt when the other guy didn't respond anymore, but I realize I only have myself to blame for that. So I've decided to start putting myself out there. Hopefully, it will pay off eventually and I'll find someone I won't immediately fall out of love with. Maybe you should try the same?

 

This has happened to me before....
I sometimes just feel like they pester me... I don't know... I think it's because I for some reason want to the person desperately liking someone, not the other way around xD

Although, I think when this has happened in the past... I never REALLY liked them in the first place... I think if someone I really liked deeply reciprocated feelings or even got clingy, I would still like them

But yeah, I think it's kind of normal. I think it just takes time to get to know a person properly...

 

I used to have the same problem.
After a lot of self-discovery though, I realised it was because I didn't feel like I deserved to be loved and if they're attracted to someone as plain as me with that much intensity then there must be something "wrong" with them.

That said, when a guy (or anyone really) gets really clingy and invades your personal space, it gets annoying. It still makes me think they're acting out of some deep insecurity. Loneliness and desperation is rarely attractive (sorry to anyone here who is lonely or desperate).

Maybe it's one of those 2 things.

Peace be with you.