Hey there everyone. I am a paraplegic who loves to dress in girl clothing and I have trouble with finding someone who is not a total idiot when it comes to sex with me. I am a little depressed about this because it makes me feel like people just see me as damaged goods. How do I get it through people's heads that just because I am paralyzed that doesn't mean that I am not capable of being a good partner? I would appreciate your help, support and advice but I don't have the patience for rude and idiotic comments. Thanks
Off the top of my head I've got nothing, so instead a few questions... 1. Which is causing you more problems in terms of negative opinion, being paraplegic or being a crossdresser? 2. When you say good partner, are you talking sexual, romantic or both? I'm sorry I can't be of any more immediate help
Off the top of my head I've got nothing, so instead a few questions... 1. Which is causing you more problems in terms of negative opinion, being paraplegic or being a crossdresser? 2. When you say good partner, are you talking sexual, romantic or both? I'm sorry I can't be of any more immediate help
I'm not sure which one is the most bothersome to me. Maybe being paraplegic mostly. When I say partner I mean both sexually and romantic. It's not that I can't find someone who is ok with everything I just can't seem to find one that actually believes that I can do anything I could before I was paralyzed. I'm just frustrated I guess
Hi there, and welcome to EC! I don't doubt that this would be frustrating for you. You're a minority within a miority within a minority. The person that you're going to want to spend time with, and who will want to spend time with you, is the person who is able to get to know you as a person - not as a diabled, crossdressing, gay guy. How to do that is the challenge. Getting out to social events or joining a club of some kind is what we often recommend in order to meet new people to develop new friendships. Again - welcome to EC!
