I've had a crush on a beautiful lesbian who works at a computer lab near me. I've talked to her a few times at lgbt meetings but nothing totally mind-blowing. My issue is that she told me that she will be leaving her job in two weeks. I know it's risky but I feel like I have to make some type of move before I just never see her again. So any one have any ideas what I should do to get her attention? I was thinking about either 1) casually inviting her to a party I will be hosting 2) (or maybe being more forward) and asking if I can use her computer for a second to write an email and then open up a word document and write some thing like "I think you are stunning. At the mere chance that feelings are reciprocated I would love to take you out for dinner. If not then you can take it as a compliment (Leave phone number)"
The second one sounds really cute. If she's leaving in two weeks, maybe forward would be better. She might not get the hint from the party invite. If it doesn't work out, she's leaving in two weeks.
Thank you for helping me out I guess I'm just looking for the one which will have a higher chance of a success rate? Inviting her to a party is less direct so if she is kind of debating on whether or not she is interested inviting her to a party may not be as stressful for her... But the dinner is kind of direct so I don't really have to ask myself questions like "is this a friends thing or a romantic thing"? But then I think there's a higher chance of being rejected for that... I don't know :\ ---------- Post added 31st May 2014 at 03:03 PM ---------- Ya, that's also another way to look at it
Hi there! It might be easier to invite her for a coffee, rather than a dinner. You could always go for a walk or a bight to eat afterward. Going for a coffee first, it would also help to keep the expectations somewhat lower.
When I was in college, I worked in the computer lab. I would have really liked the word doc idea! So from one lesbian computer lab nerd, I give it my approval. That really is a seriously cute idea.
I love the computer lab idea as well The thing is I see 3 scenarios happening 1/ you don't do anything and am left wondering 2/ you ask her and she says yes 3 you ask her and she says no- if your worried about it being awkward at work she's leaving soon. Also most people are flattered when they are asked out, nothing wrong with telling a lady she's stunning I say go for it
Casual approach is good and less embarrassing in case of rejection. Unless you're feeling very confident.
