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I think my mom found my butt plug...

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by tyler h, Jun 1, 2014.

  1. tyler h

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    1) I made a homemade butt plug tonight. It was stupid but I really wanted to. I feel like I can't fulfill myself sexually without fingering myself and I thought it would just make things easier during masturbation.

    2) I am only out to about 10 friends that are my age. I haven't told my parents. They may already know, because they are my parents after all, but I haven't told them anything.

    3) I borrowed a blazer from my dad last weekend. A button popped off while in use so I laid it down in my room, so that I could sew the button on when I had time. I just kinda left it.

    4) While sitting in my room I had a scary realization. I hadn't found a home for my butt plug yet. I didn't know where it was. I ran behind my bed and my dad's suit jacket was gone and my butt plug as behind a leg of my bed.

    5) My dad doesn't really come into my room. Not sure why my mom would but it seems a lot more likely.

    So... fuck.

    I don't want to come out during a talk about why I made a butt plug, but it would probably help make more sense. Maybe I was smart and put the butt plug behind the leg of my bed, and nobody's the wiser. What should I do if they bring it up? Help?
     
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    If they bring it up and they're not furious about it, chances are they'd be okay with you just telling them that you're gay, on the spot. Honestly, that's similar to how I came out to my parents. They found some gay porn and I just was like, "Well...!" :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:

    For some reason, I doubt they'll bring it up. Parents are usually pretty respectful of teenage boys and their masturbation, and if they possibly know about your sexuality already, then I don't think they'd be surprised.

    Might I ask - how did you make a homemade butt plug?
     
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    did you leave the condom on it? if not don't stress over it.
    If so, confront your parents before they confront you. This will show them that you are honorable, and "manning up", if you confront them it shows them that you are mature.
    Chances are they will want to have "the Talk" with you. Just be honest with them, Honesty is the best thing you can give. This of course is only valid if you live in a country where homosexuality isn't a crime.
    One more thing!
    Anal pleasure isn't for gay men alone, straight men partake in the act, though it is taboo for them to do so, even in America.
    If their history of LGBT support isn't a friendly one, just let them know you are experimenting.
    You should however expect to "lose points" on the home-made butt plug, as it is dangerous, and could've resulted in a trip to the E.R. -- expect to hear that line from your parents.
     
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    Update:

    I haven't been confronted about anything yet. After checking my dad's closet, I realized the jacket was not yet returned. Then, I found it hanging in my closet. That's definitely not something my dad would do. My dad didn't mention anything when he drove me to school or when I just helped him with the groceries, so I have reason to believe he doesn't know. If my mom really did find it, she hasn't told my dad or acted upon it yet. I figure if I can get through tonight, I'll probably be in the clear.
     
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    Funny thing is I had a dream about my mom finding my dildo, follow Claudette's advice
     
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    Sounds like you are in the clear. But in the future, you might want to be more careful about where you leave things. Odds are if one of them did see it, they probably won't ask you about it because it will be awkward for them as well as you. Most parents will probably shy away from the entire thing unless pressed or they think they have something to worry about with you.

    Hopefully this doesn't press the issue and you can go about your life like normal. And hopefully if at some point you do want to talk to them about it, you can. Anecdotal story about my mom. A few years after I came out, she called me in her office (I worked for her at the time), and she asked me "your father and I want to know what a Butt Plug is for". Now, I am no prude (and neither is she), but she managed to embarrass me a bit. I explained what it was in vague terms. More recently that story has be told and retold by my friends and family and we have a good laugh over it now. But at the time I would rather have tried to fill the ocean one teaspoon full of sand at a time....

    moral of that story, what might be the most embarrassing thing now might end up being a funny story later in life. If you do something dumb, own it. Better to be part of the joke then to be the butt of the joke...
     
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    If - and I emphasize If - your mom found the buttplug and recognized what it is... she is probably mortified and will never bring it up to you. Just let it go. I have a feeling she's trying to do the same thing.

    Finally, you can find perfectly adequate buttplugs online.