How do you begin to experiment?

I have exactly the same problem... My school isn't really big enough to meet that many new people... And I don't really know where else to meet people.
Sorry if this wasn't very helpful as I have no real experience myself.

 

Remembering back to my 12 year old birthday party, my one friend dared someone to get on top of him fully clothed and pretend he was a girl in the class. I took him up on the dare. He spent the night a couple times a year, and we did the same thing for awhile. Progressed from doing what we did to frottage, then he said he came because he hadn't used the bathroom(we were 14 and he thought I was dumb which I was but not that dumb). Things went to oral around 15 after looking at the gay porn mag he stole from somewhere and printing out stuff from the internet(which was still new back then lol). Good times. Childhood luck really.....

 

I kind of have the same problem so i hope more people post with personal experiences/advice xD

 

I am going to be very vague as this might implicate someone who might not want the information out.

I had a friend who I spent quite a bit of time with. There were lots of sleepovers and one thing led to another. But it started about the time I started to notice boys up until I was in HS. but we started with just daring to see each other naked...then touch then suck and so on. by the end we'd done everything two guys can do.. Was fun and lots of great memories. He has a great wife and we are still friendly, but we've not spoken of it in 22 years.

 

well experimenting was kinda easy for me, i go to kinda like a private school/college type with dorms and me and a couple of the boys played around: touching, sucking, no sex though till i got my feelings mixed up in it and wanted more only to find out most were closeted, hope i spelled that right

 

I wouldn't necessarily advocate what I did- which was hop online and on various apps/groups... But I think it's just a matter of meeting someone, clicking, and seeing where they lead.

Regardless, however you decide to experiment and explore, please do it safely.

 

Oh yea. Took a moment for the memory to come back to me. So what happened was I was at work and the guy who was attracted to me (and I knew he was) happened to be in the dorm cafeteria while I was working so I took a short break to talk with him and whatnot. I don't know how the conversation went as I really can't remember but I do remember him saying he needed to do a load of laundry and I offered to cuddle with him after I got off of work and changed. So I got off of work and went back to my dorm to change out of my work clothes and then, on my way over there, he texted me: "That's so nice that you want to cuddle" and I went completely honest with him and told him: "I'm questioning right now and don't know where this'll lead." He was completely fine with what I told him. So we cuddled and slept together and whatnot. He started developing feelings for me on top of what he felt for me before and then I just decided to ignore him the best I could after that.

So if you expirament with a guy that has developed feelings for you, I recommend treading the waters lightly and don't make a big deal of whatever happens. I did that and I began to feel bad when I started to think: "How would I feel if someone did to me what I did to that guy?"

 

1. Are you absolutely sure you're ready to be sexually active?
2. Do you care about building a romantic or emotional attraction to the person, or is this a one night stand type of thing?
3. Your best bet is to become more open about your sexuality and look into your locale's gay scene a bit more. Try to meet new people, and maybe you'll find someone you like.

 

Alright then, now that we got the first two questions out of the way, we can work on the third one.

Depending on your age and your driver status (if you're licensed or not), that could be a bit of a conundrum. But hey, it could always be worse. You could live in a place where there's no gay scene within an hour's drive (like your's truly), and also not have a license (if you do have one). You could get some of your close friends who are comfortable with your sexuality to go along with you to clubs and such, or you could get them to go to your city's Pridefest, which might be going on soon. Pridefest is a wonderful place to go, even if you don't meet someone right off the bat. If you don't want to go with friends, that's cool too, just be safe. If you can drive, perfect. If not, maybe you could call a cab service if no friends are willing to pick you up?

 

It was quite difficult for me, as I'd been molested when I was a kid and after some quite awkward experiences, but it wasn't until I'd gotten into a real relationship that I finally had one that I could enjoy.

 

I was 17 and was a bit drunk with friends anyhow a guy came and spoke to me bit older he kissed me and I responded sort of we had a few dates before it got really physical . getting drunk isn't the best way I know .

 

I don't really know ,girls would just ask me out right still happens not as much because I'm not fully out but a few girls that know are being direct. So I guess you just have to tell the person.

 

Focus on dating and just making gay friends and let the sexual experience just happen. Don't try and plan for it and don't hesitate to turn a guy down if he's not your type. Put condoms in every drawer in your bedroom so you don't have to hunt for one should the need come along unexpectedly. And keep one in your wallet.