Hey there. I'm a black guy living in Africa. I live in a country where other races are so much of a minority that seeing them around is an absolute rarety. I like black guys , but the thing is i do find them sexually attractive but emotionally, i rarely do. When i envision my future i see myself with someone of a different race, white, indian or whatever. Even when i watch porn, black porn is not as appealing to me as, say, porn with white actors. To make it even more strange, i've never dated anyone from a different race. Is this normal or i'm just subconsciously racist?
Since you have never been with someone of another race, how do you know you would have an easier time connecting emotionally? It sounds as though emotional connection in general might be more of the obstacle here than race. What exactly have been your emotional experiences with men? What would you say you see differently in members of other races?
I've never been with someone of my own ethnic background. I find other nationalities more interesting, more appealing, and I live in Canada.. the most multicultural country in the world. Only way to know is by experimenting.
I'm not saying it'd be easier with someone from a different race. Let me put it this way...i find Black guys mildly attractive....and i'm drawn to them SOME TIMES....i find White, mixed race or whatever wildly attractive all the time....Of course i have no experience dating other races but when i close my eyes to imagine ''an ideal parther'' for me, i see someone other than my own race. ---------- Post added 6th Jun 2014 at 04:08 PM ---------- I agree i haven't really someone with whom i've felt a strong connection with
Exotic and foreign stuff spices things up. I don't mean to compare people to food or clothes, but people like to try new and different things sometimes. Also... it's your personal preference plain and simple.
It does sound as though you are more attracted to races that are more foreign to your environment. With racial preferences, the problem is not when people tend to find themselves attracted to one race over another. The problem is when people completely denounce an entire racial or social group as unappealing to them when there is truly not need to make those assumptions or generalizations. It sounds as though you keep an open mind when meeting potential partners of all races, but seemed to be more attracted to races that differ in some way from you and the average inhabitants of your environment. There doesn't seem to be any reason to believe that those attraction come from a prejudice or racist mindset. Since you haven't had a strong connection yet, I would make sure to keep having that open mind because there is no telling who you will find that connection with and those that we connect with are usually the ones we find the most attractive regardless of previous preferences.
What Gen said is spot on. Being attracted to a certain race is harmless, but shouldn't limit you with dating other races or even your own-if it is your own, some may see it as a double standard.
