Looking more Lesbian

From what I've come across in my "research", while not definitive, you can try:

Trimming your fingernails as if you were a pianist. (Please don't make me explain why).
Search for info about lesbian jewelery, hairstyles and/or fashion.

I suspect at a lesbian/gay bar some of these subtleties might twig for someone.

You can also search something like "What does a lesbian look like". There are a couple of helpful/humourous blog posts out there which might help ease your worries.

Oh, and confidence seems to be more important than looks but, of course, that's a Catch-22 because if our appearance doesn't make us feel confident, how can we appear confident? Blug.

 

Well sweetie. My advice wear what you want. I am not out at all really. And I dress in what ever I want. I have a pretty butch haircut. But have always had short hair. So yyesterday I wore man shorts and a tee with a hoodie. Very boyish. Today low vneck, jeans and girly jewelry. It is different every day. But that never changes the girl flirting. I believe when you feel confident about being gay even if you arent out it makes a huge difference in how much you will get noticed. Slowly build your confidence. Eye contact is great. Work on that. You will be amazed at how easy it gets.
For lesbian fashion advice and pictures of some well dressed lesbians of all sorts check out my fave site autostraddle.com it is great. We come in all shapes and sizes in all forms of delightful dress. Find it and own it honey.

 

Actually, most lesbians prefer femme or "straight" looking women.

But if you want to dress more masculine, go for it. I usually just wear guy's clothing and don't wear makeup.

 

That's really hard. I myself have difficulty spotting a lesbian 'femme', because most of them dress like a straight girl. I suggest wearing the things you're comfortable with. And just do with "eye contact". One of the things I distinguish femmes from butches (and others), is when they stare at you or some other women.

So just try to connect with eye contact if you like someone. They would be a chance they'd notice or a friend of theirs will notice.

 

dress like u normally would, but with a lot of rainbow jewelery and stuff

 

I think your problem is less one of fashion and more one of confidence.
You need to get to a point where you can wear what you like, whatever others might think.
You just have to be your own fabulous self - out, proud, and happy, whether femme or butch.

Other than that - just act gay. I look 100% straight, but the moment I open my mouth, people know what's up lol.
I've been told my humour is dirtier than most guys' and I check out girls without even noticing it, and I make flirty comments and the like.
So you, sadly in the current lesbian culture, as a femme, you have to become a bit more aggressive in your flirting behaviour.
See something you like? Go get it, like a mighty lioness stalking her prey.

 

You'll get there keep working at it. Trust me you'll be glad you did. If there are any gay/lesbian resource centers near you, check them out. Meeting other gay folk and just being friends boost your confidence. Also get out and enjoy life. If you are loving your life and look happy you are more likely to be approached. Feel wonderful in that gay skin it is a beautiful thing.

 

Rainbow jewellery?

 

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I am not giving up on you having a cute cut. There is a girl at my work with this cut. Super cute.
I love mens button ups and vests too. Those really get the ladies attention. Dress up the vest with a few queer buttons. Those will get you noticed.

 

I have the same problem, my friends seems to forget I'm gay just because I "don't look like it". It is annoying, actually.

I do agree that is more a confidence thing that anything else both in terms of "acting gay" and dressing the way you would like it. I am extremely uncomfortable with my body so I have settled with jeans and t-shirts because I don't feel there's anything that I like that looks good on me. Hate to accept this, but I know is just in my mind...

I have recently decided to make an effort and comment aloud more about girls, mostly for the sake of my sanity.

 

I have given all the advice I can. Sounds to me like you need to except yourself first. Good luck to you.

 

Wear a rainbow bracelet.

 

I don't think you need to dress like a lesbian to let people know that you are I just think wear a rainbow bracelet that will let people know.

 

For what it's worth, you sound kind of cute to me and I haven't even seen you!

Maybe this anecdote will illuminate things. (Maybe not, but here goes.)

I used to work with young women who would say hi to and be greeted by everyone we passed in the office. Our job function took us all over a fairly large building and across all other departments so this was a lot of "encounters". After a while I asked her if she knew all these people and she said no. Now, granted, she was very beautiful and I'm sure they all would have liked to have known her but I think it illustrates how even a simple "hi" can get you a lot of mileage!
Interestingly enough, if I recall correctly, I think she basically had only 5 or 6 outfits which she rotated. She always looked great but I guess the point is, she had her style and just stuck with it. Her personality just shone through.

 

Me?

 

Just wear something with a rainbow on it, preferably a bracelet. I detest lesbian stereotypes and I try to stay the hell away from them.