Can going around gay venues and even clubs help me in the love department ?

Go for it! I think you have the right idea, you are looking for friends, and if you happen to meet someone who has more potential, bonus. The only thing you need to consider is the type of friends you want. There may be other people in the bar like you and not sure where to meet other people. But, there is also the possibility you may meet some people who like to drink a little more than others. If that's what you like, then it's a good place to go, if not, be selective. I haven't come up with any great ways to meet people yet, but I completely understand the need. Good luck

 

I guess it would depend on what you're looking for as far as a relationship. If you're not looking for a serious, long-term relationship, I would recommend a bar. If you are, maybe just hanging around in the gayborhood area would be better. It is possible to find love in a bar or club, I'm not saying it's not, but bars and clubs are mainly for people looking to just have fun for a night. It's a great place to meet people and make connections, but some people (like my ex) can only have fun when they're at bars, which wasn't much fun for me, because I don't drink very much because I don't find much pleasure from it, and certainly isn't what I was looking for from a relationship.

 

When you go, make sure you go without the expectation of finding that partner, but if it does.. HORRAY!!

Just try to have fun and enjoy it when you're there for the moment, don't dwell on how you didn't find someone tonight, try to just approach people and maybe something might happen

 

It's definitely possible--and I think if you actually enjoy gay bars and go over time to enjoy yourself they can be a great way to meet someone special. I met my partner of 16 years in a gay bar and have many friends who met their partners that way. If on the other hand you are planning a partner-hunting excursion, you're almost surely going to be disappointed. As far as the making gay friends part I think they can be a great way to widen your circle of friends--again I met a really large portion of my long-term friends in gay bars.