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i am thinking about suicide.am gay pls help

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  1. jackson thomas

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    i am really attracted to men,i am a man.i thought about it since i have no interest for women.
    i recently heard that most gay men in gay community still have sex with women and most of them enjoy it just like or more than gay sex.some guys through online said to me they loved it and loved vagina.
    i tried to have sex with woman. it wasn't enjoyable.i just could get off,just ejaculate.it felt good to my dick not to my mind.i had to think about men to get an erection but i wasn't aroused sufficiently to have sex.But lots of gay men really enjoy it.many married gay men said through online that sex with women was great to them ,what wasn't great was relationship.i thought gay guys have no interest in having sex with women.instead many have.
    I fell into a great depression after that. became very sad and thought about death many times because i couldn't bare it.i thought about me being gay but other gay guys can enjoy sex with women but i couldn't.i did suicidal attempt 4-5 times. all were in vain.i just slept for two days,that's all.
    many anti gays told me to be straight and marry a woman and live a normal life.They say no one is really gay.THEY TOLD ME A STORY OF GAY GUY AND LESBIAN ACTIVISTS WHO WERE IN NON STRING ATTACHED SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP,,was a shock to me and i fell again sad.i tried it with women again but no use.
    Now i am seriously thinking about doing suicide.i don't want to be a part of perverted gay community at all where gay guys consider women just as sexual objects.
    I WANT TO LEAVE FROM THIS FOR EVER SINCE I AM NOT CREATED BY GOD
     
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    U Were Created By God Just Like Everyone Else And He LoveS You Equally , Gay Or NoT.You Will Find Someone One Day U Just Have To Be Patient. And If You Love The Person You Are Having Sex With It Will Pleasure You No Matter If It Is A Butthole Or Vagina. Just Don't Kill Yourself That's The Most Selfish Thing You Could Do. Just Think About All Your Family Or Friends That Love You And How Much That's Gonna Hurt Them. So.. Cheer Up Your Man Is Out There You Just Gotta Go Find Him. After All He's Looking For You To!
     
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    Where did you hear this about many gay men liking sex with women? That's not true at all. There are many gay guys who do have sex with guys and are perfectly happy with it. Also, can you give some more info about what your environment is like? Do you live in a Western country?

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    Also, you have been making multiple threads on the same subject. Try to keep your discussions to one thread so that everyone can be on the same page.
     
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    I cry every time I hear an LGBT suicide story... please don't do it, you probably mean the world to someone..
     
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    You've gotten a lot of bad information about being gay. You've been taught a lot of lies about God too if you think he didn't create you JUST AS YOU ARE.

    Sometimes when gay men are confused they "try" women, but if you are actually gay it will never seem right. It will feel somehow unnatural... because it is.... if you are gay, your meant to be with men.

    I was once just like you. I really believed all the bad and thought God condemned me. I was raised with fundamentalist beliefs and at one point I almost committed suicide. My last resort and greatest change came when one night I had a long talk with God and instead of asking Him to change me, I asked if it was true (that I am gay) and if so, to help ME accept it. Now I'm not talking about the God of any fundamentalist religion, I'm talking about the REAL God... the one that loves you. If you seek out that answer from deep inside, you will find it. God is there in everybody, and God loves everyone, gay, bi, straight.. it doesn't matter.

    You can help yourself out of this pain. First, accept the love the God inside you has to offer and stop believing lies you've been taught about God. Experience God for yourself.
    Second, educate yourself about gay men. See a gay friendly therapist if possible. Read books. Study online - lots of gay websites... (not porn). Third, don't look for sex, look for a friend and look for a romantic loving relationship. Treasure your sexuality, do not exploit it or cheapen it.

    I went through a lot of ups and downs, but many years later I have a partner and we've been together 12 years. If anyone had told me this was possible at the time I felt the way you do, I would have not believed them. But, I'm telling you now... believe it or not. Peace.
     
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    how can i have a boyfriend?i live in a very conservative country,India. and i am not that attractive

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    why do many gay guys still have sex with women?so what antigays saying will be right.gay choose to be gay.
     
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    I guess this answers the question I am trying to ask you on the other thread you posted.
    I know it's very distressful being gay especially in a country where you live in. My country isn't that educated with LGBT issues as well but I don't think suicide is not the answer. Just because these gay people say that they love having sex with women doesn't mean it's true. And even if they really did have sex with a woman, it still doesn't justify the fact that their sexuality prefers their same sex. I think you need to take a breather for a while. Talk to someone who you can trust or a licensed therapist.
     
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    Agreed! If it were bad for you to not like women then you'd see more straight men having gay sex - not happening!
     
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    Gays don't have sex with women like you say. Some try dating women to see if they would like women but end up not liking them.
    Some who do end up liking them are either Bisexual or Pansexual.
    But if you're gay, you only like men.
     
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    Gay community isnt perverted and you should really think for yourself more to be frankly honest
     
  11. jackson thomas

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    I am now sure that I can also enjoy sex with woman.so I am now going to marry one instead of committingsuicide.I still have no interest in women. But as I heard from other gay guys and married ones that I can also love sex if I try again. I haven't had enjoyed sex with women.I think I am the only gay guy who couldn't enjoy sex with women.all other gays can.