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In those good moments...

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by TheStormInside, Jul 25, 2014.

  1. TheStormInside

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    What do you tell yourself?

    I'm having a fairly positive (moment) at least. Times like this, some of the things I tell myself are:

    -I'm gay, what's wrong with that?
    -I don't hate or judge C, or S, or W for being gay, why should I hate myself for it?
    -This realization is a good thing, it means I *can* have a happy, fulfilling relationship. It'll just be with a woman, not a man.
    -Ladies are sexy :lol:, finally I can allow myself to appreciate that.
    -Who the f* cares what anyone else thinks? This is my life I am living and not anyone else's.
    -Gay rights have come a long way in recent years and continue to advance forward.
    -Loving another woman doesn't harm anyone. It might "offend" some, but truthfully when is love anything but a positive thing?

    So... a thread for positive affirmations and thoughts. We're all going through a lot on this forum, and I've certainly made my fair share of negative posts (and I'm sure I'll continue to do so). But I wanted to share a more positive moment, as well, and hope others will do the same.
     
  2. hoodie boy

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    It's great to hear that you're having a positive moment.

    When I feel this way, I tell myself:

    - I'm not alone (at least half of the population feels the same way about men)
    - I'm a quirky, fun, and unique individual
    - Sooner or later I'll find someone who likes me as much as I like them
    - I have friends and family who love me regardless of my orientation
     
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    I loved reading that...that's awesome. Power to you :thumbsup:

    I like this. It's good to move away from trying to find a societal, or even a scientific 'justification' for 'why is it ok to feel the way I do', and instead to just rely on one's own conscience, what one knows deep down to be right, or wrong - and as you say, what harm, if any, is done by two consenting adults of the same gender having sexual intimacy? Answer: none, zero, zilch. No harm. Therefore: it's ok to romantically and sexually love someone of the same gender. Basically, we can go for it :eusa_danc

    Thank you for sharing this positive moment, but also the others as well, Storm. It's all part of the journey. Regarding what seems to increasingly be a shared journey we are all undergoing here on ec, I am reminded of a song by Metallica, Nothing Else Matters, the verses (minus repeats etc) here:

    [YOUTUBE]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UbREpm19muI
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    :slight_smile:
     
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    The main thing I think of is I don't do drugs, smoke, or drink so if the worst thing about me is I'm gay, I would say I turned out pretty great.
     
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    Hi, everyone!

    When I'm in a happy mood, I always tell myself things like:

    -I'm proud of accepting who I am.
    -It's not too late to being a better me.
    -Someday I'll find the right person. I just need to be patient.
     
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    Thanks for sharing your positive thoughts, everyone :slight_smile: . I'm slipping in and out of depressive states still, but it helps to come and read some of these, as well as reread my own affirmations to myself. I hope others feel the same. And Damien, thank you for the lyrics, I do like that song and I never thought of it in that way.

    Keep the positive thoughts coming!