Lesbians with kids?

i think it depends on the person, i would like a guy with kids shows he is very caring and nurturing

 

For me I don't think it'd be a deal breaker. It really depends on the person though.

 

I enjoy kids and that alone wouldnt be a dealbreaker at all! However if I disagreed with major aspects of how a person was raising them or what was in the kids best interest (mainly like emotional abuse, spanking, no vaccines, disinterest in diet, healthn and wellbeing) it could become a problem.

My opinionm anyway c: I have known esbians that dont mind their girlfriends having kids and think of themselves as step moms and mom, I have known some that cant stand kids. Just be upfront and it should be fine!

 

To be honest, I don't like kids and don't want to have them myself, so someone who wants to have kids or has them already probably wouldn't be a suitable partner for me. Of course, I'm thinking long term here.

 

It wouldn't be a dealbreaker for me.

What might be a dealbreaker would be if someone tried to conceal the fact that they were a parent and then sprung it on me later on.

 

It wouldn't be a dealbreaker for me either. I have given this some thought because I also have kids and wondered the same thing and whether I'd want to date someone who has kids. I think that if I am interested enough in someone that I will accept their kids the same as I would accept her because the kids are a part of this person. I think it's important when dating someone who has kids not to view them as competition because there is no competition, the kids should always come first. I guess it really depends on the person you are dating. The way I see it is we come together and if someone can't accept that, then she isn't the right person for me

 

I've wondered the same thing. I'm almost 30, have a toddler. It feels like coming out so late in life my options would already be greatly reduced and then add a kid from a heterosexual marriage. Sigh... I remain hopeful something will come around once I'm divorced and no longer officially attached.

 

To me it's a turn off if a woman has a kid , I don't like kids at least not right now ; I want to build a family with a woman but, i'm not sure if I want a kid or not . The trouble is with lesbians with kids or women with kids in general is, you have to get the kid to like you and on top of that you have to get her to like you too , if she likes you it doesn't matter because ,if the kid hates your guts it's over . It's a waste of time to me , I don't want to try that hard , sometimes too women will use you to take care of their kid or kids . I'm not any body's baby sitter , If I was in my late 30's maybe at this age no way . I want to enjoy my 20's , I don't want to be slowed down by some woman's kid and I'm not good with kids so I lose points with you even if I really like you so it's a deal breaker sorry .:dry:
Too many bad odds stacked up against me .

 

I turn 18 in a couple of months, so yeah it probably would be a deal breaker at this age lol. Later on, I don't think it would be. I feel awkward around kids, but if I really liked a woman, I'd at least try to give it a shot. It's not like you have to adopt the kid or anything.

 

I think it may be with younger lesbians, but for most other over 30s, not a deal breaker. After all, you pretty much expect a woman to have at least one kid if she is 30. I am 45 and have never had a single problem finding dates or partners because I have 3 kids. Just not a problem.

 

It truly is going to depend on the person. I have actually had two different ladies ask me out with my children present. It was a bit disappointing since I couldn't accept either time, because I am still married. My crush was totally into the fact that I had children. Now her girlfriend hates children and wouldn't want anything to do with a gal that has them.
I personally wouldn't mind, since I have my own. We could have our own queer Brady Bunch.