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A man asked me to go out with him despite me telling him i'm not interested

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    So as I was walking out of the train station , this guy came up to me and asked me out , I told him I was seeing someone and not interested but then he insisted that he was better than the person I was seeing and that he had a car and money . he then gave me his number told me to think about and said .
    " I can't wait to see what you'll wear on our date "

    I'm left here confused because I told him know and where does he get off thinking we're on a date .
     
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    What a jackass.
     
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    "Ohh, look at me, i have money and a car."

    I would ignore him completely.
     
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    Hi there! There are cases where you can ignore somebody, and just turn a cold shoulder to. This is one of them. If by chance you see the guy again, keep walking. Try your best to ignore him. Don't pay any attention to what he says.
     
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    Just ignore him. He is a random guy you meet off the street. If he appears before you again, call the police for harassment.
     
    #5 RainDreamer, Aug 14, 2014
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    Don't walk, run!
     
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    He works on the train I take to work which sucks
     
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    If he continues even if you ignore him, call the police or/and talk to his boss.
     
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    I will

    but I wonder why does this nonsense keep happening to me :tantrum:
    sometimes I feel like it's my fault :dry:
     
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    It's not your fault for being beautiful. If they choose to be jerks then it's on them.
     
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    Thanks buddy , I'm going to ignore him tomorrow for sure .
     
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    Yeah, it's not your fault for being beautiful, and you are. But I feel for you.....
     
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    If he still try to move on to you when you already made it clear that you are ignoring him, put him down and tell him in the face that you are not interested in him. Make it loud, so that people around you hear it and get their attention. He will be embarrassed enough to shut up and run.

    If you are brave, tell him you are a lesbian. Tell him that you are not interested in him, not interested in his car, not interested in his money, and most importantly, not interested in his dick, which is apparently the only head he is using. If it is interesting enough, who knows, you may be an internet sensation if people are watching, and he will go down in shame and never try to hit on women like that ever again.
     
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    I have an alternative take. He may have just been trying to project a cheeky confident air, in order to make himself more attractive, projecting masculine assertiveness. Depending on the tone in which it's done, I think this sort of playful persistence can be a legitimate courting tool. If he was threatening in any way then that of course is unacceptable.

    If you see him again and after saying no again, he still persists, then that's clearly over the top. I think coming out to him will probably be a bad idea, since if he's an asshole he'll make a homophobic comment in order to deflect or manage your lack of interest in him, and you don't need that.
     
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    In the UK I believe the standard response to constant unwanted advances is ":***: off!"
     
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    Money AND a car? Can I have his number? :slight_smile:

    If he insists on pushing, you can say "I already told you no. Either you lay off or I have a talk with your boss."

    Lex
     
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    Definitely gonna do what you guys said, I'm not coming out to him that seems a little dangerous.
     
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    To be honest it might have been a mean joke..

    But it would have shut him up if you told him you were lesbian:icon_bigg
     
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    Just say no....
     
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    I did he didn't listen .

    update .
    I didn't see him today you guys but I'll see what happens tomorrow .
     
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