So a few years ago I started coming out and I was really happy then something happened (I can't even remember what anymore) and I freaked out and went back to being straight. Now I'm only just coming back out again and I know I'm attracted to other males, my problem is my style changed a lot when I went back in the closet. I went from wearing nice pants, button up and shirts and such to just wearing jeans and t-shirts all the time as well as packing on a lot of weight. It's now at the point I feel like that side of me is wanting to come back again and I guess that's just who I am when I am happy. How do you go about letting go of a facade and coming out from the closet when you've been there so long you've lost yourself.
There's not a way that will immediately make you let go of a facade. You can't say, "This is who I am!" and start being yourself. It's harder than that - and I understand. All I can say is to give yourself time. Try to be yourself with yourself, then slowly extend the area to your friends/family. Don't rush. Don't be afraid. Just hold yourself high and live.
