Hi everyone, I need some advice...I was out this weekend and I met a girl (E). When I first saw her I knew she wasn't my type but then she came over and we started talking then it was a bit awkward but she asked me if I wanted her number and I said yes (even if I wasn't sure). I invited her to dance and we ended up kissing. I was so nervous because it was actually my first kiss and I was so not into it. I tried hard to make her feel good but I was thinking of someone else at the same time. I felt like such an asshole. We went back to our seats and she asked if I wanted to hang out so she stayed a little while then I went to dance with a friend I had come with and she left without saying goodbye. Now here's the thing, I've never been with anyone and I'm thinking that I should give it a shot but I don't want to text her just because I'm feeling lonely or something. She seemed really sweet and I think that with time and if I get to know her better I could like her. The other thing is I have this massive crush on someone (M) - nothing is ever going to happen with (M) - and I feel that if I text (E) that I'm just using her to forget about (M). I don't know what to do. Should I text (E)? Because I don't know if she really wanted me to call/text her and I don't know if it's a good idea. I've never had a girlfriend or hooked up before so I don't know how this works. Any advice would be really appreciated. Cheers everyone
I'd say forgo on texting her. It sounds like you gave it a go, but there doesn't seem to be any chemistry there. If she texts you, just tell her the truth - you gave it a go, and while you enjoyed her company just fine, there just weren't any "sparks". Lex
I agree with Lexington, if you weren't feeling anything then you can't do anything about it! Just think of it as a learning experience? And don't be hard on yourself about it either
