Friends

(*hug*) Hi there. Sorry you are hurting. It's hard to meet people. I'm a Diva here, but in Meatspace I know like 4 people.

What do you like to do? What hobbies do you have?

 

(*hug*)If we met irl, I bet we'd be friends. Sorry you're lonely, but we're here if that helps at all.

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And also, I have no idea how to make friends either.

 

I know it's hard when we all have anxiety. I got lucky recently and the new neighbors at my apartment complex are nice. Still in the "getting to know you" part, but it's an improvement.

I totally agree about bars and such. I used to meet people thru like anime and wargames, but those people kinda dropped me when I 1st came out Bi.

 

I used to meet people thru the local anime store. Do you have anything like that? Lots of different people are into anime.

 

I used to walk everywhere, all of the time and I definitely would have considered it a hobby.
Do you like hiking too? Because there are always groups that go for random hikes. I've never tried it but I always thought it might be fun.

 

I hear ya'. The local 'town' has Walmart. ;p

You are so sweet, you and Ophelia both. You'd think you'd have whole circles of friends. Does your town have a bookstore? Maybe there are reading clubs?

 

Do you have hobbies and interests that you can share with other people? I am largely in the same position as you. Socially anxious to the point where I become isolated. My plan is that when I feel ready I am going to meet people through my love of painting and drawing. Art conventions, gallery showings or stuff like that. Also if you are a gamer steam can be a great way to socialize. Lately I have been playing a lot of GW2 and have thought about joining and LGBT friendly guild, but haven't really decided to do anything but think about it so far.

 

I know it's hard. Ashley made me go to that party at my apartments last week and I really had fun, but there are other days that I just can't face people at all. Like today, I'm just staying in and hanging out here.

The reason I say 'Meatspace' is because I don't like it when people online say 'oh my In Real Life friends'. My online friends *are* real.

 

Could you start a reading club? Is it a store that has coffee and tables? If they have even a bulletin board, you could try.

I know it's hard and scary. Believe me. (*hug*)

 

I didn't mean that, you are all already so important to me. The reason I don't use "Meatspace" is because I'm a vegan and when I write that down it makes me feel gross. Not when you write it though.

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Most of the ones that looked interesting to me are for people & their dogs and I don't have a dog right now. I don't think my cat would appreciate a forced hike. Lol.

Are you interested in any environmental causes, because sometimes the state parks have things like clean up days and stuff where you could just show up if you want to and help out a little. I've been thinking of doing that because if it's too awkward when I get there I could just leave.

 

No worries Ophelia. (*hug*) I love my girls here, I really do. I've been hurt often enough in the big world that it was hard to connect even here. I haven't even been outside today to check the mail. I'm happy I came out Transexual to my Mom, and I'm afraid I might be so girly or some damn thing in front of the neighbors. I am not remotely ready to pass, and I just don't need drama around the neighbors, y'know?

 

Lurk in book stores...

Seriously, try hanging out in that sort of place.

But really, same position as you. I gave up when I had two good friends, both of whom are still with me. Don't feel you need everything, just that 1 or 2 supportive people is all you need to aim for.

And of course, there's internet people, which really I valued as much as my 'irl' friends. (valued because now gf and bff, but still).

 

I hear ya'. All the mundane things normals do are like torture to us.