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Need an honest opinion about what my friend said ...

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by Margot, Oct 13, 2014.

  1. Margot

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    At first it struck me as though she came out to me indirectly ... would like to know if I misread the whole thing. Any advice would do ... thank you.

    I told my friend straightforwardly on email I'm a Lesbian. Then she responded with this: "Thanks for trusting me. I feel so helpless and sad because even in these times people are so intolerant with things they can’t understand. My family likes "Saving Face". They always ask me why I'm not married, when am I going to have children, you're old, you should be more feminine, you should dress better, you should go out more, you should fix yourself, and everything should be this that etc. Sometimes I feel I'm the black sheep of the family. I do not care if they judge me for that but I regret that my parents did not have the daughter they deserved they have not told me but sometimes I feel that they would have preferred a more normal daughter ( • ᴗ • ) و ̑̑ hahaha ... I don't know what to make out of this. Whether she's gay like me or just frustrated & pressured with her parents.
     
  2. Blossom85

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    That is a hard one to read.. It could be meaning that she is a lesbian as well or it could mean something different.. I wouldn't assume based on that as it is not a direct statement and it could very well mean something else.. Maybe you could ask her to expand on that a little more.. Maybe you coming out to her and you trusting made her feel she could trust you with her feelings regardless of what it is about.
     
  3. jay777

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    I would reassure her... that we are not here to fulfill others expectations... and if she would like to elaborate a bit more... just like blossom...

    (*hug*)

    Oh and welcome, by the way :slight_smile:
     
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