I feel ugly, others disagree

It sounds like you have deeper emotional issues tied to how you perceive your physical body. I would suggest therapy, because I had the same problem and my therapist has helped me to be able to see what other people see in me rather than just all the bad that I saw in myself. (*hug*). I'm sorry you have trouble with your self-image. Try thinking positive thoughts about yourself. Also, when someone compliments you accept it and don't immediately think "that's not true" or "they're just saying that", because those are negative thoughts that aren't going to help. And they just aren't true. Sure, some people like to flatter others, but every single person you've met who has said a nice thing about your appearance wasn't just saying it to make you feel good or anything like that. They mean it. If you don't want to go to therapy then maybe try writing in a journal about your feelings surrounding your appearance and see if you make any breakthroughs with that.

 

Definitely! It took me years to bring it up in therapy, but once I did we really worked on it and made progress relatively quickly. I've actually reached a milestone this last week. I was able to see myself in the mirror and not a distorted image of myself - for an entire day! That was huge. . I know you can overcome this. You are a strong person. .

 

Omg, I feel you. Back a couple of years ago when I was literally very overweight, girls in school kept telling me how fit I am. I was like, girl..., you better put your glasses on. (no I didn't say that XD) A lot of them has also asked me out (which I constantly turned down for obvious reasons.) but every time I looked in the mirror, I see a whale, lol. I'm still overweight now but I lost a lot of pounds compared to back then probably because of puberty.

As for your case, if it's just your face features you don't like, chances are, they really do find you attractive. Everyone have unique taste. Some people may find you attractive, some people may not, but obviously, you would find that those who do find you attractive will go ahead and say it to you and those people who don't won't.

 

This is EXACTLY what I think of myself. People have told me that I have model good looks before and have tried to push me into doing modelling for some money, but I don't think that way of myself. I think I'm less than average looking, either I'm really cynical or they're incredibly optimistic. I'm pretty sure it's a mix of the two.

I try to get over it by realising that it's probably best that I don't think of myself like they do. I'd be an intolerable douchebag then.

 

Like you said you "Feel" ugly, I think you need to boost you're self esteem, and self worth.

 

I have the SAME problem...people say, 'oh you're GORGEOUS' and I say a curt 'thank you', and I don't see it at all, so you're not alone! Look at yourself in the mirror, keep telling yourself that you ARE, that's what I do, even when I don't see it. (*hug*)

 

Same for me except nobody tells me I'm cute nor beautiful nor ugly. xD Nobody's ever really commented on my looks at all.

 

You need to practice and appreciate when someone gives you a compliment. Say "Thank you." rather than downing yourself. In return and you'll slowly embrace your physical appearance and gain some self-esteem.

 

I am sorry you are feeling this way.. I know it is easier to believe the bad things then the good, however when people tell you are cute or hot.. Then I think you perhaps need to learn to trust that. I know I have days when I don't feel beautiful or cute, but when someone compliments me, it really brightens my day and lifts me up because I believe and trust what they are saying even if I don't feel it myself. Learning how to self-love is very hard, but I think it is a valuable thing. I hope you feel better soon (*hug*)

 

No one has ever told me I was handsome besides an online friend but people have said I wasn't ugly which is nice...

OT, if people tell you they'd go straight for you that means u ain't ugly!