update I found a new place to live and I will be moving out of my parents house

I'm really happy you're getting away from your parents for good, and I hope It goes okay living with him. It's very normal to be scared to leave because It's all you've ever known

 

I'm glad that you have a safe place to go! Yes it's normal to be scared when you're in that situation, but hang in there, and keep pressing forward! (*hug*)

 

That is wonderful to hear, it is good to know that you have family will are supportive and will accept you as you are. I hope it all goes well for you.

 

I would say it's completely normal to feel scared about moving out. Where you live now is what you are used to. I know it will be kinda scary at first but you'll be much better off once you get settled in. As for a job I would try looking closer to where your cousin is since you won't have to travel as far

 

That's great news, Stocking! And yes, I think it's normal. It's a big change and a lot to adjust to. It will be good for you to have a familiar person to live with though, so you won't be totally on your own. If he's willing to have you move in I'm sure he'll be supportive if you have a tough time at first.

It sounds like it might be a good idea to look for a new job closer to where you'll be living, but as long as you can manage it you should probably keep the jobs you have so you're making money still until you find something closer.

 

Good!! (*hug*)

I would definitely look for jobs closer to where your cousin lives. It'll cut down travel expenses immensely.

And good luck! (!)

 

Some advice:

Cut off communication with your parents. It sounds harsh, but you have to. If your parents are as abusive as they seem, especially your mother, they'll constantly harass and bother you, about this. They'll claim you're "just running away from God", or something along those lines. You'll have to cut them out, for now at least, so that you can get grounded/settled, and focus on the initial necessities, of being out on your own (or with cousin, lol).

You don't want, or need, any unnecessary nonsense.

 

There are two people on these forums I want to see this topic title for, and you're one of them Stocking :, ) I am very happy for you and look forward to your inevitably bright and wonderful future away from your parents! It's okay to be scared, but I bet you will grow to enjoy it!

 

Congratulations Stocking. Glad to hear you are finally getting away from your parents.
Aside from the inconvenience of having to travel for your jobs until you can find something closer, it might actually proves beneficial to put some distance between you and your parents by going somewhere further away. It will make it more difficult for them to bother you in person (phone numbers and email addresses can be changed, but it's harder to avoid someone if you live in the same area) if they have the hassle of having to travel to you in order to do so. Living on your own for the first time is not quite as scary as it first seems, and you won't be alone anyway if you're with your cousin. Best of luck

 

Hallelujah! I'm so happy for you!

Yes its normal for you to be scared. I imagine at some point your parents have suggested you can't survive on your own. You can do this! Your aunt and your cousin will help, and so will we. You aren't alone.

 

Congrats

 

Tell your brain it's just a three week vacation and then go with the intention of enjoying yourself. And then hopefully as the time passes you'll come to realize how much better things can be and the whole moving out won't seem so daunting.

This is just cold feet. Change is scary but it's just a state of mind. You will be fine AND feel extra good for having succeeded at doing this.

 

This is great news stocking! And no it's not weird for you to feel scared of moving out regardless of the fact you are moving out of an abusive home. It's still a new thing for you.. some people are scared of change.. but in the end they realise it was really for the best I guarantee that's how you will feel once you're settled in your cousins house!

Does he know you're a lesbian or only your aunt?

 

Good luck! I'm so happy you got out if there.

 

First of all congratulations I'm so happy for you (*hug*) also I'm sure it's scary to think about being on your own but now your free and your mom can't make u do anything anymore. I would suggest just getting a job where your cousin lives and just traveling for the lgbt groups unless there's some closer to u. I'm so happy for you!!! Good luck (*hug*)

 

No, this is like the battered woman syndrome. You sympathize with your abuser. With your situation, you need to turn and not look back. Independence is scary. Although my home was not as overtly abusive as yours, I had my share of problems with mental abuse. I did not want to leave the house at 26, but my dad forced me out more or less. It was a good thing. It allowed me to watch certain shows that confirmed my sexuality etc. I would not have that opportunity living with my parents.

I was overjoyed to see this thread.

 

Oh you're going back to school? That's great! :icon_bigg I'm so happy things are finally working out for you (*hug*)