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17 and still parental control ?!

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by Fimo, Oct 25, 2014.

  1. Fimo

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    Hey i'm sorry, I didn't know in which category this thread should go, so I posted it here ! :icon_wink

    Since I was a kid, my dad used a parental control on my computer. But it was very very restrictive, so when I turned around 11/12 he gave it up !
    Last year, he bought an internet router, in order to control at which time of the day I could, or couldn't access the internet ! But as I am not dumb, I found the password in my dad's computer :eusa_danc (I know it's bad ), and I just disabled the router when I needed it !
    But we had a few problems, so my dad returned it and now he uses a software proposed by our ISP ... And it came with an url filter ! :eusa_doh:
    Now I can't access to any url with "sex" or "porn" in it. I don't really care about porn, i can easily live without !
    But the "sex" thing bothers me more, because I can't go on any url with "homosexuality" in it ... you get my point here!
    So even on EC, I can't access the "Physical and sexual health" or "Sexual and Romantic Orientation" categories anymore, or basically any topic with "sex" on the title ! And it just sucks !!!
    I tried to talk to him about it, but i can't just go and say "hey dad, I wanna access websites about sex !". And as he doesn't know that I am a homo-sex-ual, I don't think he could understand that I would go on websites concerning that !

    Right now, I use a software that a few of you may know. It's called Tor Browser and is commonly used for anonymity on the internet. I usually use it to bypass the geographic location filter that is on some websites or youtube vids (as I am not in the usa). So I use that, but it's a bit annoying to always have to open the browser, wait for it to connect to tor, paste the url and wait until it sloooowly loads (because Tor is slower than normal internet) ! :dry:

    So of course I can live like that, but it's still really annoying and bothering !
    I just needed to share my thoughts, I know you can't come with a solution, because the only one would be to make my dad change his mind ... but yeah, it's not my fault if he has trust issues ! :/

    Thanks for reading :slight_smile:
     
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    This might not mean much while you are struggling to access various sites, but rest assured, your father is doing it because he loves you, cares about your wellbeing, and probably still sees you as his baby girl. As a father, I can relate to this :slight_smile:
     
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    Ah man, this sucks. You have my sympathy, if my parents knew how to do this, they would have. It's a shame that any LGBT topics get filtered out along with porn, here in the UK our biggest internet provider got in trouble for offering the ability to filter out anything to do with homosexuality. Sigh.

    I guess from his point of view, he doesn't realise that it's so important to you, and like the poster above says, he is trying to protect you. But yeah, if I was 17 years old it would irritate me too. My sneaky advice: Get a smart cell phone contract with lots of data included! :icon_wink
     
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    At least it's pretty easy to bypass that crap. If you want any pointers on how to keep him from seeing stuff on your computer you can message me.
     
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    That really stinks! I hope you and your dad are able to figure out a system that's more respectful of your boundaries. Just be glad you're not from South Korea. Parents never relinquish control. They become more reasonable once you get married but still hold a tight reign.
     
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    I know that my dad doesn't do that to piss me off or something. I know that it is for my protection. But I just don't see what's the big deal with porn ... I'm going to learn about sex and stuffs sooner or later, and he knows that !! (and i know porn isn't "real life sex")
    @BiCatholicBoy : I don't know, i've been arguing for years, and as I have less than a year left before i go to college ... I don't know xP
    But yeah, as you say, there is always worse somewhere !