Lesbians: Would you still commit, if your partner can't go down on you?

I think I remember this, It seems like It's getting to the point where it isn't worth it anymore.

 

so she was bisexual pillow princess ?

Well to answer your question no , I would not go down on her .

Yeah I remember I saw a post similar to this ,I'm wondering if it's from the same person .

 

I think still think you should pick a better girl , because if you get back together this is still going to make you upset . why doesn't she want to eat girls out ?

 

Sounds like since she uses the word guilty sounds like she might be fully accepting to her attraction to women .

 

I don't think it makes you a bad person for breaking up with her, I myself can't answer the question cause it would depend on how she is as a girlfriend in other aspects.. Sex isn't the be all and end all for me, so I don't think it would bother me to much, but I can't give a proper answer without having experienced it first hand. If you have needs that need to be met and your other half is not and can't meet them no matter what department it is wether romantically or sexually, you need to think about it and decide if you can keep it up..

It sounds like you have been trying to make it work since June and it is still an issue for you and I think the longer it goes on like that, then you might start arguing and resenting each other. She might resent you for pressuring her or asking her about it and you will resent her for not being able to give you what you need, so it sounds like perhaps you have made the right decision for yourself in the long run.

 

I think you shouldn't go back because it hurts and it will hear more if you get back to her , there are many bisexual girls who are romantically into girls that will get girls out too , you just need to find someone better .

 

She's absolutely not obliged to do any sexual act she doesn't consent to, but you're equally not obliged to be with her when it makes you feel bad about yourself and the relationship.

Sometimes people are just incompatible sexually, it's ok.

 

If I ever had a girlfriend again, it would also be a sexless relationship, just like the ones I've had so far. Oral sex with a woman (giving or receiving) just doesn't appeal to me. And I wouldn't feel comfortable with a woman giving me oral pleasure and I don't want to reciprocate. So I just avoid sexual things altogether when dating a female. I'm more of a cuddle and kiss person anyway, no matter which gender I'm with. Though I have had sex with men before, I feel that sex is overrated, so don't see the point. :dry: I have almost no sex drive anyway, which suits me just fine.

Come to think of it, both the girls I've dated so far, cheated on me. With guys. Perhaps it was because of the lack of sex, and the guys were willing and eager to pleasure them?

 

Short answer is no, I wouldn't. Whether its intentional or not she's hurting you. You've tried to work it out, but it seems she's not quite willing to put in the same effort. I'm not just talking bout the sex either. Relationships only work if both partners give to each other...and again I'm not just talking bout sex. How come she never paid for a date? Does she ever plan them? Why didn't she ever drive out to visit you?

 

I also remember when you posted about this for the first time. This is a decision only you can make but I think it can hardly work long term. Considering all you said it's obvious it's been really bothering you and I assume if you two go back together the feeling won't just go away; this issue will keep hurting you.
This actually makes me wonder how she really feels about you. When I was with my boyfriend there were things that I didn't fancy doing much but I at least tried from time to time because I loved him.

 

Yea, I know I'm a guy, but I'm gonna reply anyway.

Okay, I've been here over a year and keep hearing new terms ...pillow princess? I had to look that one up. Most of the definitions seem to be a girl who just lays there during sex, so I'm going with that. The truth is that being a "pillow princess" (excluding gender here) is enough for me to never invite you over for sex a second time. Without the "pillow princess" part i probably would commit to a guy who didn't reciprocate oral. Do I enjoy receiving oral? Yes, most guys do, but it's not something I put a ton of stock in.

Whether it's the "pillow princess" part that I wouldn't enjoy or the lack of her reciprocating oral that you dislike, the problem is still the same. The problem is that you don't have a partner who satisfies you sexually. There is no way that I could commit to someone who doesn't satisfy me sexually. This does nothing but cause problems. You said that you have been with her for 5 months and are already frustrated to the point you broke up with her.

From the rest of your post I believe you think that she is a great person and are upset that the relationship is over. I have to ask though. If you were frustrated to the point of breaking up after 5months what happens if you get back with her? More of the same? If it's more of the same and goes on for another 5 months then what? Do you go behind her back and find someone who will satisfy you? Could you live with yourself if you did?

I know me asking if you would cheat my sound extreme, but my bet is that 5 months ago you didn't think it was a big enough problem to cause a break up. I know your heart is aching because you broke up with someone you care about, but going back is just going to make the same problem continue.

My advice is mope around the house in your pajamas for a couple days, eat you a couple gallons of ice cream, then go out with some friends. After a while you will be ready to get back out there and maybe find a girl who makes you happy and can satisfy you sexually as well.

 

No I wouldn't. Because a relationship has to go both ways, and sex is included in that.

 

The worse too is when your both bottoms as well and one refuses to top .

 

I guess in a way this also proves that some people just have preferences you can't change. I know I could never bottom for a girl regardless how much I like her....It's a no-go zone. Which is why discussions are so important,

 

i dont want a pillowprincess, a relationship should go both ways, not one way only

 

Well, I don't think I could be with someone who wouldn't penetrate me, so I can certainly understand where you're coming from.

I mean, I think it's not a lot to ask and intimate partner to reciprocate oral sex...