I have always known i like women more than men , i couldn't sustain a relationship with a man i was constantly thinking about women . I had an amzing relationship with 1 woman but it was never spoke about yet the thought of been in a lesbian relationship terrifies me , please help :-(
I dont know exactly why it scares me so much, the one relationship i did have got a horrific reaction from the few people close to me that should have probably been supportive but were not. Im not sure if that is why. I wouldn't know where to start confidence = 0
You might be scared because there were not that many examples of same-sex relationship when younger...so it feels like you are in uncharted territory. Like feeling like you are not "educated" enough on how to sustain a relationship with a woman when society taught us how to be with men (or someone of the opposite sex.) so maybe you are worried about failing. But a same-sex relationship is just like any relationship. To me a relationship should embody honesty, respect, and friendship. So maybe figure out what your relationship should embody. I am scared of being in a relationship period because i don't trust people much. It is not because of it being like "uncharted territory" but, because i am scared of being lied to (vulnerability?) So maybe identify what you are exactly scared of. I am also a tad scared of confirming my sexuality, but at the same time not. Hope this helped a little.
That is a very valid point there , been in a same sex relationship is unheard of in my family, not that i have contact with them anymore but still it kinda haunts me a bit. The one relationship i had with a woman was amazing and i think i will always adore her she is much older than me and i felt so safe , i totally hear what your saying about vulnerability i relate to that i think thats why she was so special because she was my safety if that makes sense. I have three small children (one from a long term relationship with my first ever boyfriend and 2 from donor) i worry how it would affect their lives. I just worry period. Thank you for replying
