fag hags, love them or hate them?

Hmm, there are plenty of gay men on the site who admit to preferring the company of women (usually straight, usually feminine), but it also depends on the type of guy and where you're looking.

All I will say is that there isn't anyone you should feel the need to be accepted by, and most who are worth your time will like you how you are. Perhaps you feel safer among fellow LGBT folk, or better understood. I know a few bisexual and lesbian women who have crushed on gay men, too.

 

Nothing wrong with wanting to be accepted! Although as a former bi girl, I have been in your position before. Since I also only dated guys, I got that vibe that most gay guys thought I "wasn't gay enough" and it's kinda trendy for straight-seeming girls to have gay guy best friends. After Queer Eye came on TV, it did kinda get annoying there for a bit : / But if a gay guy isn't going to accept you, and be prejudice because of your orientation or gender, they are just as bigoted as any other of those homophobic jerk-offs out there. Just try and find friendly people, I promise there are super nice gay people ouh there who aren't like that.

As for not telling your bf, why? You seem to want to, are you worried he will judge you, or leave you, or not understand?

 

I guess things have changed a lot but I used to hang out with my male gay friends often enough (usually at bars) and it was never an issue. I mean, as long as youre hanging out with them because you like *them* and not just because they are a novelty/entertainment gay, I dont see what the problem would be.

Most of the gay guys I know are either straight looking/acting or just slightly camp or feminine (sorry... for someone that has hung out with gay guys off and on for decades I have no clue on the lingo!) but theyre just like anyone: if you have things in common and genuinely like them and they like you, you'll be fine.

 

Dang, yeah. That's basically a 50/50 split as for reasons either way. I hate that -_-

 

Well there seems to be an air of freedom around some gatherings of gay people...
and gay men often understand the feelings of women, without much drama...
and there is often something relaxed, on a friendship basis...

 

Some women are weird though, this one female friend dragged me with her into a public girl's bathroom and was like "who cares you're gay anyway!" because she wanted to keep talking while taking a pee :icon_eek:

It was really awkward because there were like 5 other girls and I was just standing there feeling like a creep or pervert :lol:

 

I have no problem with being friends with women, but I don't like the term "fag hag." Why can't it just be "friend"?

 

I don't mind hanging around females, but I personally don't want to hang around anyone who treats me completely different because of my sexuality, whether they treat me better or worse.

A close friend I came out to kept trying to cuddle and said "gay people are so cute" and I got mad. I don't want it to be a quality I'm judged on.

 

I love the first part of your answer such a sweet response and drag queens are amazing i adore each and every one of them.I have always felt more comfortable around girls and many of my female friends have said that they feel safe and relaxed around me. even before i came out i felt more and more in tune with the emotions and feelings of a girl and if they are having a personal issue they can talk to me without fear of being judged.

 

Lol I love talking to girls who are cool with gay guys as long as rhey arent all fakey fake

 

ive been coerced into having conversations with women while they bath
,in the cubicles
and whilst they get changed (completely)
not 100 % comfortable .
Women coming up to me in pubs to be my new bff who dont know me from adam??
i do love women
but godam

 

I guess it would depend on the person. I don't want someone to be friends with me just because I'm gay but if they're just regularly cool wth gay people I guess I would be okay with that. But I am very selective on friends and only want to hang around people who are real.

 

I sure would like to know the origins of that delightful phrase, "stage 5 clinger." It's hip.

At my age, I'm surprised to see that the term "fag hag" is still going strong. Nothing wrong with it. The benefits can cut both ways. Guys get to hang around people who are more "emotionally available" than a lot of guys, and the women get, well tell me what the women get... :icon_bigg

I can see where a lot of guys might like to have more guy friends, though, and it could crowd you out.

Is it possible there is something Freudian in all of this?

 

no idea what the women get out of it
im shite at shopping ,fashion and drama
b

 

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