I have this issue where I have to "play therapist" for others. I literally have to. It feels as if it is my responsibilty, my task, my meaning. I listen to peoples problems, I try to help. And when I can't help I blame myself. Although, I know that in most cases I can't help. Especially in regard to depression and that stuff. But I freaking can't help it. I have to. Over and over again. It's literally driving me crazy I know this is not good and is doing more bad than good to myself, so I ask, How can I stop it? Or at least make it less? I know I should be talking to my therapist but I can't make him understand the way I'd like him to. Thank you in advance
I think you perhaps should think of it as being "I can try and help, but that's it". You will occasionally be unable to help some people. But it's not about the people you didn't help but the ones you did. If you didn't help at all then all of them wouldn't have been helped. So by helping you have increased the number of helped people. If that makes sense.
Well that's a point. Actually yes. I'll remember that But still there's the problem that I try to help too much people too often Thanks
I think that it's easy to put pressure on yourself to solve people's problems, even when you know deep down that you can't. It's only natural to want to help people. Sometimes, though, just listening to them is the best help your can provide. Don't feel bad if you don't have all the answers. You're still a good friend.
