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Am I destined to never have friends or a boyfriend?

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by gibson234, Dec 1, 2014.

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  1. gibson234

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    I can talk to people individually and can sometimes enjoy it. Although often I find it both uncomfortable and boring. The problem is I find it both difficult and not that much fun to talk in groups. I find it difficult to compete with people to be the "one who talks" and anyway people in groups talk such garbage.

    The problem is that individuals who I may wish to speak to just end going into groups. Meaning I don't really have any friends, as I seem to be the only human being who doesn't like to talk in groups. I have had friends in the past but I got those when I was a young child, hence I don't think they really count as past examples of making friends.

    So am I destined to never have any friends, let alone a boyfriend?
     
    #1 gibson234, Dec 1, 2014
  2. shinji

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    Okay, let me get my psychic hat on...

    YES! Definetly!

    Now, let's get serious... You can't ask this, you don't know, i don't know... no one knows. It entirely depends on you.

    Watch this: Stop Complaining and Start Doing! | Motivational Rant - YouTube

    Not exactly on point, but... the same idea.

    Basically, you need to change your mindset, and things will change for you.
     
    #2 shinji, Dec 1, 2014
  3. xander1986

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    You are destined to be alone if you will always think that way. In order for you to start being friends with others, be friends with yourself. Believe that you can.

    It's cliche, I know but as Shinji said, it all begins on your mindset.
     
    #3 xander1986, Dec 1, 2014
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    No advice; however, I struggle with the same thing you describe.
     
    #4 Incognito10, Dec 2, 2014
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    I love talking in groups :grin: Voice your opinion and talk about things you like.
     
    #5 Celatus, Dec 2, 2014
  6. MusicislifeXD

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    Maybe hang out with people individually. Like ask if they wanna go out, and say that you wanna just hang out with them. Some one-on-one time might help.
     
    #6 MusicislifeXD, Dec 3, 2014
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