I feel like being gay is terribly wrong and abnormal

This is the way I think about it, and I hope that it helps you.

God created all of us; he wants us to be happy and cares for us deeply. Why would he create us to be attracted to members of the same sex if that's wrong? It's not as if anyone chooses to be gay.

There is no reason to be guilty; you're a person who is attracted to people who just happen to be the same gender you are. It doesn't define you any more than the color of your eyes does.

 

You are not alone for sure. I too am "gay" (although I may be bi). I have a very conservative family that some around the country would call "redneck". They have an intolerance of gayness but are not violent towards gay people. They are generally bible thumping conservative Christians. I was raised as such myself. Despite it all, I am fine with myself. I realize that there are certain things about oneself that one just can't change. With those things, it is best to accept them and be happy. There is nothing wrong with being gay. Sure, it may be hard at times and you may encounter a lot of intolerant people, but you will also encounter a lot of people who have nothing against gay people. Maybe it is because of my experiences or maybe my growing age, but I really could care less what people think of me anymore. If someone doesn't like me, so be it. Your post hints that you may have been raised as a conservative and raised to believe in only one sexual orientation. If that is the case, in your mind you may feel it is wrong to be gay. Nothing wrong with being gay. You are what you are. At least here you will be welcomed with open arms so feel free to talk to us!

 

Do u think it's because your family is so conservative?

 

^ same for me. My family takes home the prize for biggest homophobes. We're all in this together. Just know that we were made this way, we can't help it, and there's NOTHING wrong with it. (*hug*)

 

Don't be afraid to tell others that you are gay. You will find some who are not accepting out of fear, they have the wrong perception, don't clearly understand. You will also see many who are gay-friendly. You won;t find out if you don't try trusting others first. You as well should let go of your fear, you are afraid other won't accept you as who you are. Show them you trust them and you will see love can over come most problems.

 

The fact that you have accepted that you are gay is the first step on the long road to acceptance. For years, I felt the same thing, that even though I was gay I was somehow wrong in my ways. Living in a conservative area of the country there wasn't much support from the people around me. However, after years of hating myself and living in denial, I slowly grew and learned that I wasn't abnormal in anyway, and this new identity was liberating.

Just know that the person you should trust above all others is yourself. There will always be those people who will be bigoted and intolerant, but there are also people will love you regardless of who you are.

Everyone here is supportive of you, and you should know that you aren't alone and there is always someone to talk to! (*hug*)

 

you can't be guilty of something that you didn't do. You didn't make yourself gay. And if God made you gay, then I believe that it has to be a good thing because I personally believe that God loves us and gives us gifts that we can't always understand. Maybe it might help by making a list of things that you are thankful for, and letting him know. Personally, I am thankful that God gave me life, I am thankful that I am fed and have a place to sleep, I am thankful for friends, I am thankful that I am a gay man, I am thankful for EC, I am thankful for your post that reminds me that we are all struggling with something. That changes the dynamic for me. Maybe it can do the same for you. You can probably come up with a new gratitude list every night, because every one of our days are filled with gifts, IMHO.

 

Being gay was not a choice, nor is it abnormal. What's the difference between you and a straight person, just the fact that he likes girls and you like guys-

It's like choosing a sandwich, you prefer a different kind of sandwich than your friend does, and that is why I find it ridiculous that people cannot accept the LGBT community. We are all human, we just like a different type of sandwich!

 

exactly. some guys like clams. I prefer hot dogs!

 

I LOVE BEING GAY! And you can too! You can embrace it, eliminate any guilt and be content. See what others are saying - its a journey to get here, but a journey worth following indeed!

 

It's actually all a journey. Look deep into your soul and what do you see, well I see in myself a man who wishes to be embraced and loved by another man and that is the only thing that makes me different to so many others. Being Gay is not abnormal is any way, you can be sad about being gay because you are different, but does different really mean abnormal or does it mean something new, someone who is not the same old sheep who does not follow the flock of other sheep. But rather is the shepherd or the real people of the world of so many sheep.

You are not abnormal, you are actually normal. I mean look at me, I have a disability as well as being a homosexual, that is something that is rather abnormal, especially if your disability is rare, but do I care about being like that, no it makes me look at the world differently, if I wasn't gay I would most certainly be an entirely supportive guy of the LGBT community no matter what. The thing is though it's who you are and it is never abnormal to be gay in fact 8 million other people are LGBT, yep so in comparison it's not that abnormal to be gay.

I'm starting to love being gay, but it is a task that might seem impossible but when you look at the sky and begin to wonder it is possible that is the awesome journey of discovery and even the old and young will undertake this journey and for 8 million it's a journey that will release unto the world who you are and what you're hiding from. So don't be afraid lift your head up and scream at the top of your lungs like a singer, I am gay and I will forever be looking for a place to play and I am so proud of myself.

End long ass post about why you ain't abnormal for being a gay man.

 

At least you have support on here. I tried outing myself out as gay at the beginning of the year and it didn't work for me that much because my friends know I make snap decisions. Friends all thought I was joking and no one was supportive of me and my life decision. I thought about it the whole year and can clearly tell now I am bi-sexual and have fantasies of both, but I have a major porn addiction to both types of porn.

At least you have no major addictions and you will always have my support for your decision

 

ME TOO!!! I LOVE BEING GAY!!! and like you, gaynerd, I am surrounded by conservative family and work associates, all pretty religiously conservative. It used to make me feel guilty, and even drove me to self hatred and depression. How did that change? Hmmmm, let me think about it. Well, one factor was admitting it to myself. It sounds like you've already got that done. And then I read everything I could about being gay, to get a broader factual and scientific and even honestly moral/theological perspective. And then having gay friends to support me in this. well, so far only one, plus all my EC friends. It all helps. I say, use every tool in your toolbox to move on to a better place. And if you find that the toolbox is kind of empty, start filling it up with more tools for healing, friendship, love and self-acceptance. We're all in your corner!!!

 

Well considering that 5% of people are gay (not to mention bisexual and bicurious people who probably constitute another 20%) I would not say that it is abnormal.

Accept yourself or get a therapist to help you embrace yourself.