I had an interesting experience the other night. I was at dinner with coworkers after we had some drinks. We were eating out appetizer and the conversation took a turn to relationships. My boss said how she hoped that me and a fellow coworker found true love. She looked at me and said something about how any girl would be happy to have me. And then she said somrthing like "Unless you're gay of course... You're not gay right?" And I shook my head no.. Then my other single coworker must have given her a weird look because she said "Wait, yes or no. Because you just gave me this weird look... Is there something I don't know here?" I quickly shook my head and changed the subject. I've been thinking about coming out lately, but I didn't feel like making it the conversation of our little staff outing. I just was caught off guard and it made me a bit uncomfortable. Was I wrong in not being honest?..
It does sound like you were caught off guard there, so I wouldn't blame yourself for not saying anything. However, from what you've said, it doesn't sound like you co-worker(s) were being outwardly hostile. They might have even just been testing the waters. They probably would have been okay if you'd told them the truth... but I understand it's hard to have that conversation when you're not expecting it!
you were not wrong at all. you were unfairly put on the spot without warning.. However it was a good thought provoker / dress rehearsal for when that question pops up again at some future time
The door is definitely open for you to have the discussion, and Spartan says, I do think they would be OK.
Sounds like the boss was testing the waters. I bet a woman at work has a crush on you and made a few moves that you might not have been aware of. They probably had a conversation like this: BOSS "Well maybe you're not his type." OTHER WOMAN "Maybe, I mean he wasn't getting any of the hints" BOSS "Well maybe hes gay" OTHER WOMAN "You think? God, I wish there was a way to know for sure..." They probably didn't mean it in a mean way, she probably likes to play matchmaker. Though I would have reacted the same way
