Reasons I may or may not prefer girls.. Please help.

Okay this isn't an answer at all, but I have like the same thing. Like I had a ton of crushes on boys in middle school and I always felt really awkward and shy and I acted super ditzy. Then nothing for a couple years, then now I started crushing on a girl really hard???

 

Yeah, my life is basically the same, but wherever you talk about male crushes, switch to female crushes, and whenever you talk about female crushes, switch it to male.
I think, in the last year, I've became much more sure of my sexuality than I ever was before (due to joining EC, mainly) but I'm still questioning. You don't need to make your mind up. And, even if you do, it can be whenever you want to. (*hug*) Hope you get everything figured out!
I&W

 

you can feel straight and then start to have crushes on women, to your masculine side: maybe you just like or admire the men´s power and would like to have their position in society...but i can be wrong...

 

Some people "just know", some don't.
I don't know. I really don't. I wish I could. I know how it feels!

I think you're scenario is just a mix of growing up, and possibly discovering that you are bi or pan. When you were little, it could be that you wanted to be like your sister and her friends. There are many people that have been or are in your situation, feel free to message me if you wanna talk about it or just chat.

 

You're young; don't worry too much about labels! At your age I thought I was straight (definitely am not).

My advice: date people you like. Have romantic & sexual experiences with them (when you're ready). See how it makes you feel. Then maybe think some more about labeling yourself.

Some people "just know"; others of us need concrete experiences to "just know". When you're with the right gender of partner, you'll feel it, I promise!

 

Aww boo! Let me just mention that anything you feel with boys has nothing to do with how you feel towards girls. They're separate things. You can like boys (straight). You can like girls (lesbian). You can like boys and girls (bisexual). You can like intersex or transgendered (open-minded). You can like everyone (pansexual). You can like no one (asexual). All those feelings are normal, and all those labels are out there.

You don't always "just know," and I think it's frustrating that most people say that. I know people who say they just know themselves as straight, and then tried stuff with the same sex and ended up being gay or lesbian. I also know people who said that they know they are gay or lesbian and did stuff with the opposite sex and liked it! Sexuality is known to be this term called "fluid" - meaning, just like a stream of water, your sexuality moves around from place to place and moves directions. Sexual orientation (if you like boys, girls, both, everyone, no one) isn't black or white - as in having to like only boys or only girls - there's a huge spectrum, which a guy name Kinsey even did this scale from 0 (Totally straight) to 6 (Totally gay/lesbian), and studies show that most people are in the middle (1-5)! So, something to think about.

In short, the sex you prefer more is always changing, but the way you feel for a particular, significant person in your life is all that matters. The labels don't really matter anyway. It's really about your connection with another fellow human and what you do with that connection.

Happy soul searching <3

 

I used to think I was interested in girls right up until a month after my girlfriend broke up with me. Then I started thinking about it because I knew I was at least bisexual at that point, and quickly realized I didn't care for girls. Who you liked in middle school doesn't matter.

Only you can decide if you are a lesbian or not. Are you sexually attracted to girls physically, mentally, or both? Do you want to be romantic with girls? What about boys?

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And I never had a concrete "feeling" when I knew without a doubt I was gay. It just came to me gradually. If your like me, it will take you a while to reconcile it with yourself even when you know in your heart that you are. I'm still trying to feel confident in my orientation, but the unsureness keeps tripping me up.